The title pretty well sums things up (so that's your TL;DR for those that would ask for one). I'd love to find a younger girl (18 to early 20s) that's curious and really wants to explore - sexually, romantically, and to explore new places and things together in a deep, loving relationship with a caring, understanding, mature and responsible guy. A girl that's petite or average weight/height (just not overweight), as I'm on the more thin/average side myself. A girl that likes (or is at least open to) the idea of being with an "older" [than you - middle aged in my case haha] guy that's more mature, responsible, patient, caring, understanding, and is willing to take the time to get to know YOU, the REAL you, your mind, your heart, listens to your thoughts, and isn't only interested in you for your body. Someone that, over time once you're comfortable with each other, you can be completely yourself with, feel completely comfortable to share your thoughts or whatever pops into your head. Someone whom can teach you all sorts of things, can make you feel safe and loved (and give you lots and lots of cuddles and watch Movies, Anime, YouTube, Netflix together!), can give good advice and "wisdom with age," and so on. Someone that wants to get to know and understand you as well and as deeply as he possibly can, and if we click well enough to fall in love, a guy that will so deeply, emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually love you and care about you on a level that few if any boys your age are capable of, because they haven't had the few decades of life (and sometimes loneliness) to understand what they want, and therefore be able to appreciate, love, and understand how special what they have is when they DO find it. Also, for petite/average girls, if you like the size difference between yourself and a taller guy (makes for particularly amazing cuddles!), I'm a little tall at 5'11", and at 160 lbs, I'm relatively slim. I'm white and 39 years old, although I'm often told I look a good bit younger (I've also been told I'm cute on a number of occasions). I've never been married and don't currently have any kids, but I'd love to someday (in the relatively near future, but not immediately haha, I want some time to spend together and both get to know each other and enjoy each other's company before jumping into that haha).

First things first though, I'm not looking to rush into anything, and like I said I'm happy to take things at your pace (within reason, i.e. I'm not looking to wait several months before we do anything sexual). I'm looking for a girl that's curious and wants to explore sexually, but wants to do it in a loving relationship, and not in some random hookup. I might be open to something a little more casual to start with than a deep romantic relationship, depending on what you're looking for - but please be up front and honest about what you're looking for either way haha. ;) Also, if you're curious to explore sexually but are worried that if you sleep with someone they're going to blab and all your friends might find out, this could be a good opportunity for you since I'm both outside of your current friends group and don't know any of them, and also because I DO NOT talk about my sex life to others (other then a partner I'm in an intimate relationship with). I don't ever talk about it to my family or even my best friends. So you don't have to worry about that. Also, depending on your circumstances and reasons, if you need/want it, I'm willing to be very discrete, at least at the start of the relationship, if you're wanting to keep our entire relationship discrete AT FIRST (not for a super long time), just until we've gotten to know each other well enough that you're comfortable and confident in the relationship before telling your friends.

As for why I'm looking for someone shy, well for a couple of reasons. One is that I used to be very shy when I was young (although I'm not anymore - and I can help you gain self-confidence and slowly work out of being shy if you desire). Another big one is that I've learned that shy girls, once you've gotten to know them and they get comfortable with you (yes, this takes a little while, but I don't mind that!), can be some of the BEST dates/partners because since they don't have a huge number of friends/acquaintances (generally speaking), they tend to appreciate the few that they do have SOOOO much more / more deeply. Also they seem to be more likely to understand the super deep level of mental, emotional, and romantic connection that I'm looking for - because they're usually looking for the same thing. I want to be as close to a fairy-tale/romance story like romance as is practical in real life (and I've learned it's a LOT more practical then I used to think as a young kid)! I want to be a couple that LOVES spending A LOT of time together, does almost everything together and spends almost all of our time at home together. (It's OK if we have a few of our own hobbies/things we do by ourselves or with our friends sometimes though, we don't have to do LITERALLY everything together). I also want to take roadtrips (and sometimes plane trips) together, travel, see new things and new places together (particularly theme parks / amusement parks / water parks, but not only that - museums, malls, and other things are cool too)! But most importantly make lots of amazing memories together! Even though there's an age gap, I believe we can still have a "young love" style of deep, emotional relationship! Also, I want our age gap to be something we can love and enjoy and have fun with; for example, it's fine if we tease each other about our ages, or being old (or young), etc., as long as it's in good taste / not in a hurtful way. I don't want our age gap to be taboo TO US. I don't care if others are bothered by it or not, as long as we have a good relationship, that's all that matters to me. :) Oh, I'd also like to add that, while I'm definitely not inexperienced sexually, I don't have a lot of experience for my age (and I'm not the type of person to sleep with a ton of different people). On the plus side of that, because I'm not someone that's jaded with experience, there's still tons of things that are either new to me, or that I haven't done a lot, so in many regards we may not be wildly different in terms of sexual experience, but I think that would just make things more special, intimate, and romantic. Yes, I'm definitely experienced enough to know what I'm doing and able to show you the ropes (metaphorically haha), so you do have that advantage of dating someone older. As for your experience level, while I would lean towards someone with little or no experience, it's totally fine if you have some experience, as long as you don't have a HUGE amount of experience / sleep with a ton of people / etc.

As for as distance goes, while I would love to find someone super local (i.e. Timberville, Broadway, New Market, Mt Jackson, and of course the local city, Harrisonburg (where James Madison University is), but I realize that's highly unlikely, so I'm happy to consider someone up to a few hours drive away from Timberville, VA. (Although if you are local, PLEASE hit me up! haha) It's OK if you're in High School as long as it's your last year (and you can still make a decent amount of time for us to see each other, i.e. weekends/school breaks), although it would be slightly preferable if you've graduated HS (or college), and have plenty of time for a relationship (and possibly visiting a lot / often once we get to know each other well enough for that). I am able to host and have you visit me, but obviously no rush on that, we can wait until you're completely comfortable before doing that at all. For starters I'm just looking to text / chat (we can start with text, but I'd love to jump to voice calls within the first few to several days, although I may be willing to wait somewhat longer than that if you're super shy. HOWEVER, you need to both WANT and intend to HAVE an in-person relationship (not saying it needs to be sexual right away, mind you), within a reasonable amount of time (i.e. a couple of weeks to a month or so at MOST before meeting, unless you're SUPER far). While you having a car and/or license would be very helpful, it's not a requirement for now (but you will need to get a license relatively soon if you don't have one). (It's also understandable if you don't have one particularly if you're towards the younger age range I'm looking for). I may be willing to consider someone much further away (i.e. several hours drive) or possibly anywhere in the lower 48 states if flying is an option, but we'd need to click super well and both of us be very dedicated to the relationship for that to work - but that doesn't mean it can't work, if we click really well we most definitely can make it work! So if you're SUPER interested, even if you're pretty far away, feel free to message me and ask! :) Also I may be willing to consider someone out of the country, but that obviously really complicates things; if you're out of the country, assume that you'd need to be (and be able to) traveling to me (well, at least flying to a local airport, i.e. DC, Baltimore, Richmond, Charlottesville) I could pick you up from there) most of the time for that to be an option (not to be mean, but because at the time being it's not something that I'm specifically looking for).

To finish things up because this is already getting a bit long haha, I'll mention a few final things quickly. For example, while I don't mind chatting a little first, particularly if you have some questions for me / things you're curious to know before knowing if you're interested, that's totally fine, please feel free to ask! :) However, before too much chatting (i.e. within the first few dozen messages, maybe a little longer if you're shy but at least willing to describe yourself in text) you need to be willing to exchange some G-RATED photos of each other so we can see who we're talking to. Looks are definitely not everything in a relationship, but it's not like they don't matter at all, and I understand that there needs to be some mutual attraction for a real romantic relationship to work out. I realize you need to be attracted to me as well as me being attracted to you, and no hard feelings to either of us if it doesn't work out. I would like to add that I'm not someone that's ever going to ask for suggestive/revealing photos of you, that's not what I'm looking for. If/when we get to that point in our relationship, I don't mind waiting to see that in person. So if that's something you're nervous/concerned about, that's at least one less thing that you need to worry about with me. :)

Thank you for reading my long message! I hope you found me interesting, and if you meet what I'm looking for (or are at least pretty close to it), I'd love to hear from you!! If you have some questions or want to learn more about me first, please feel free to ask whatever and I'll do my best to answer (within reason haha).

I do want to add a final note again addressing those girls that are PARTICULARLY shy, or lurkers, or maybe you've been around the forums for a while now reading lots of posts and wanting to find someone but so far have been too shy to reach out. To all those that fit in any of those categories, I'd like to say a few things: First off, as someone that used to be SUPER shy when I was young, I TOTALLY get it and understand what that's like. I've found I can almost always make shy people pretty comfortable with me relatively quickly since I've experienced it myself, understand where there's coming from, and totally know what that's like to be in that position. This is a relatively rare opportunity for you, to find someone that was THAT shy when they were young, but was able to work out of it (I'm pretty outgoing now), yet is happy to take the time to work with you and get to know you at your pace, understanding where you're at! Secondly, I'd like to say that I'm not pushy and I'm not going to pressure you into anything you're not comfortable with. I will sometimes ask you if we can do things (i.e. voice chatting after we've texted a while, if you're shy about it) periodically to gently nudge you to open up / slowly work out of your shell, but I'm not going to pressure you into it. Thirdly and lastly, particularly if you're a lurker and REALLY want a relationship / to explore / experience some new things in life, but think you're too shy (and so far have been), I want to say that I've met a few lurkers from Reddit forums, and it has often been some of the best chats, and in a few cases we've eventually met in person and got along great! I've had one AMAZING LTR with someone that was a lurker, we dated for a few years and it was AMAZING and such a deep emotional connection, in large part because they were so shy, and as such once we did get to know each other we were SOOO special to each other. (Eventually we broke up for normal couple reasons unrelated to our age difference, but it was AMAZING while it lasted, it was the deepest emotional connection). Anyways, I mention that not because I'm still interested in them (I'm not, it's been a few years ago, I'm over it now), but to point out that, for you lurkers (or just shy girls), there most definitely is not just hope of you finding someone special, but the very things that make you shy/a lurker can become your greatest strength and cause you to be able to have the deepest relationship! While it would be amazing if I'm the person you end up in a relationship with haha, even if it's not me/my post that is the one that stands out enough to you to get you to reach out, don't give up hope, you can find what you're looking for! So with all that in mind, I hope I / my post has caught your interest / attention enough to get you to reach out and message me, even if you're just slightly curious and want to ask me a few questions before you're sure you're interested, I don't mind! Also, either DMs or Reddit chat is fine, whatever works best for you!

Thanks for your time, I'd super love to hear from you, hopefully this can be the start of a great thing!