Hi! I'm 41 and live just outside Toronto. I'm married, in an open marriage: my wife knows and consents that I'm looking for another partner, whether that ends up being in-person or online only. I'm usually a big night owl, so if you're a timezone or several to the west of me, that could be a really good fit, though I also have time during the day and evening to talk, and have a fairly flexible schedule if you're local and we want to meet.

I'm looking for someone who's interested in sharing some pleasure on a regular basis, and ideally who wants to talk, get to know each other and connect. I'm not looking for love; my partner and I aren't fully polyamorous. But anything short of that is fair game. Maybe all that suits us is some casual sex. Maybe we go out and do fun things together, if you're local. Maybe we talk a lot, find we have a lot in common, and grow quite close as friends. My ideal would be all of the above!

I'm an introvert who finds it easy to talk to individuals if there's a connection. I'm optimistic, kind, respectful, honest, and place a high value on consent and privacy. I love to laugh and love to discover new things.

I'm a plus-size guy, sex-positive and body-positive, and adventurous. What attracts me most in a partner is an intelligent mind with a dirty streak. I'm quite sapiosexual, and for me, the more I get to know someone and connect with them as a person, the better everything is.

I'm looking for a good connection with someone first and foremost. If our minds meet, everything else is secondary as far as appearance and common interests. It's nice to share some interests; it's also exciting to learn about someone else's passions when they're new to me! I do have a few limits though. Please be legal age; beyond that, age is a number, and sure, it's often easiest to connect with someone close in age to you, but if I've caught your interest, don't hesitate to reach out just because you're not within a few years of 41. Please be respectful, not racist/sexist, LGBTQIA friendly, and someone who treats everyone well and sees everyone as an equal. If you're local, or close enough that an occasional meet might be a possibility, please be vaccinated, a non-smoker, and disease and drug free (except 420).

A bit more about me: I write software for a living. I love music and listen to stuff in unpopular genres like modern jazz, play keyboards, and am hoping to learn to write orchestral music in the next while. I love board games, Dungeons & Dragons, trivia, video games, and things like museums and art galleries.

Good luck in your search, and don't hesitate to send me a message if you'd like to know more or see where things go!