I posted on r4rToronto four times in one year. Here's what I learned. All numbers are from BEFORE my r4r and dirtyr4r posts.

Stats (all approximate)

• Total chat requests: over 560 (exact number unavailable because I blocked some people I perceived as dangerous)

• Total chat requests under ten words: 348 (~ 62.14%)

• Total chat requests that included one of my code words: 273 (~ 48.75%)

• Total chat requests I accepted: 32 (~ 5.714%)

• Total chat requests I had "good" conversation with: 14 (~ 2.5%)

• Total chat requests I'm still talking to: 1 (~ 0.17857%), and we've agreed to just be friends

Thoughts

Overall, I'm content with my posts because I think they accurately reflect who I am, what I'm looking for (at the time of the post), and read well (to me). However, they didn't really garner the response I wanted (expectedly, I didn't have high hopes haha)

I think that it's a little sad that I couldn't find anyone who met what I was looking for sexually. My hypothesis is that Reddit typically doesn't house the type of person I'm into because I'm extremely picky!

Like, if you're not leftist, pro-Palestine, regularly tested (full panel), educated on sexual health, single, and willing to send me at least a short paragraph about who you are/what you're looking for, we are not compatible. Thus cutting out a large majority

I also didn't reply to anyone who didn't put effort into their message requests. My biggest pet peeve was when people would send a codeword AND NOTHING ELSE. That doesn't mean anything to me. I'm putting myself out there, sharing about who I am and what I want. It's not fun to sift through hundreds of message requests that don't have a single sentence! I think that I would have accepted a much higher percentage of requests had they been of higher quality.

If I know nothing about you, what am I supposed to do with your message? I think that people need to remember that we are ALL internet strangers to each other. You need to introduce yourself and explain WHY you're messaging! I don't need your measurements (besides age, of course) or cock dimensions, I need to know who the hell you are!

I think that if you're looking for a hook-up, you'll probably have a much better chance at success than someone like myself, who is looking for a meaningful friendship that has a sexual dynamic.

I am, though, really glad I made a new friend! They're funny and seem to have a great personality, thank God. I am an extrovert through and through, so new friends are always welcome in my life HAHA

Summary:

• 560 requests, but not a single one panned out sexually
• I didn't reply to low-effort requests
• I'm picky and did not expect much in the first place
• I think success is possible, but challenging if you have "standards"

Next Steps, DV

I think I might post again in a few months, but I'm not sure yet. I think I might change my post format to be more clear in some ways (more emphasis on my political views, more clarity on what types of requests I'm looking for, etc.)

I will continue to use the codewords because they do work. I will also continue to be honest and open

I've been pretty good at annoying message requests I don't appreciate, and I think I'll continue to not engage with them

That's it from me, thank you for reading! I don't know if I want to put a codeword in this post since it's meta and not a proper request, but if you really want to talk to me more about what I've written here, you can message me myofascial.

Have a great rest of your week, DV!