The intro:

I’m a 37-year-old married man living in Toronto. Life, as fulfilling as it is in some ways, has left me yearning for a kind of connection that seems almost forgotten. I’ve been in a long-time "dead bedroom" situation, where intimacy has long faded.

Despite that, I remain hopeful. I’m fit, healthy, and active. I love talking about anything and everything—ideas, dreams, the quiet moments that shape us. It takes a lot to phase me, and I pride myself on being understanding and open-minded.

At my core, I’m someone who craves meaningful conversation as much as physical passion. I want to connect with someone who isn’t afraid to dive deep into life’s complexities and also share playful moments. You’ll find I’m as much about sharing thoughts over coffee as I am about sharing quiet, intimate moments when words aren’t even needed.

I know what it’s like to balance love and obligation, joy and routine. There will be no dismantling anyone’s world or disrupt what’s sacred in your life. Instead, I’m here to find something that complements both of us—a chance to build something secret and beautiful that enriches us without taking anything away from the lives we’ve built.

The feelings:

I’m not here to find something fleeting or shallow—I’m here because I am aching for something real, something that goes beyond the ordinary. I long for a connection that burns brightly, where every glance, every whispered word, holds a world of meaning. I want to share a secret life with someone who understands that love, passion, and intimacy can’t always be contained within the confines of what’s expected.

I want us to experience our true selves, together. To discover every layer of each other - the wild and passionate and tender and loving. I want to share slow mornings lost in quiet conversations and stolen evenings where the world fades, and it’s just us. I want to experience the kind of passion that makes my heart pound—the kind that reminds me I’m alive in ways I’ve almost forgotten.

I understand the importance of discretion, and I respect the lives we’ve built outside of this. But in our secret moments, I want to give you everything—my attention, my affection, my undivided passion. I want us to savor every second, knowing that what we have is rare and precious.

The logistics:

I get the need to chat online and be safe. So let's do that - reach out, and let's talk. But I'm not seeking anything more than a few days of chats. If we do feel there's something worth exploring, we should arrange an in-person coffee / walk in a public place.

I work downtown and live in the city. I can be flexible with my time, and obviously respectful to yours. Would I love to see you everyday? Yes. Do I fully understand the need for discretion and seperation for our own families and relationships? Yes. But maybe we can sneak coffees, or walks through Indigo, or sharing time in a park, and other creative ways to spend time together. And when we can find a private space together, unleash our full passion.

The disclaimer:

I want to be upfront: I’m not here to disrupt lives or cross boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. I understand the importance of trust, discretion, and respect. This isn’t about replacing anything or trying to "fix" what can’t be fixed—this is about creating something separate, beautiful, and meaningful for both of us.

We both have lives outside of this, and those lives deserve to remain intact and respected. I want us to build something exciting but safe—something that enriches, rather than complicates, what’s most important to us.

In short, I want this to be something rare and extraordinary—but always anchored in trust, respect, and mutual discretion.