So, I am looking for someone to go on practice dates with to places like the ROM, movies, comedy shows, or other places that might be fun. I've only been on one date before and it ended up with the person thinking I'm only interested in being friends and ended up getting messy. I want some practice, plus I am lonely and a practice date would let us experience a date without any pressure attached to it. The dates would be in public spaces, no offense or anything but we would both be strangers on the internet to one another and being in a public place would make us both feel safer.
To avoid any misunderstandings, I would like to discuss what we are looking for, what our boundaries are, and what we're comfortable with before we go on any dates. We donβt have to go on an in depth discussion but I would like to have at least a basic discussion of those. I mainly just want to hold hands, walk arm in arm or with our arms around each other, and cheesy shit like that. I've never experienced that and I would like to. I personally don't know the 'unspoken signs' that signal if those actions are cool so I just wanna make sure I have spoken(or in this case, written) permission that they are. If the date goes well we could go on more practice dates, or go on a real date if we click. If it doesn't then that is fine and one could argue that is the point of practice. In that scenario it would be nice to get some pointers on why it didn't go well so I can work on that, but if you're not comfortable with that, then it is perfectly fine as well. Also, sorry for this whole paragraph, I'm a software engineer and I think that part of me wrote this whole thing, lol
I guess I should give a bit of details about me:
- I am an average looking guy. Black hair, brown eyes, a beard that I guess would be called scruffy based on a google search of beard descriptors, average height(either 5β10 or 5β11 for those of you who need to know the exact height), a bit chubby and working on losing that, south asian, though I grew up here, and Muslim
- I enjoy reading, currently my favorite series either is Stormlight Archive or Wheel Of Time (I am trying to give the Amazon show a chance but the two seasons it has so far are making it rough)
- I used to watch a lot of TV shows, anime, and movies but nowadays I usually just watch Youtube or Twitch
- I'm a bit of a tech nerd, but also a bit of a space nerd, though maybe a mysteries-of-the-universe nerd, or maybe I'm just a nerd
- Iβm a mix of an introvert and extrovert which is kinda annoying because I want to socialize but I also want to stay in my room and watch videos and/or chill with my cats, majority of the time the introvert side wins
- Over the past year, I've started doing some improv and have gotten pretty into that
- I do experience a bit of social anxiety, but once we start chatting, it tends to fade away
And that is basically all I can think of about myself so far. If you are interested just send me a message telling me about yourself and we can go from there. Also, please only message if you are single and thanks for reading all that!
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