Hi lovely people of Reddit,

25M here mainly looking to explore with a single gentle domme, but also open to exploring with either a female female couple (either two dommes or a domme and sub) or a male female couple. Have a few fantasies I'd like to explore and pretty open to lots of kinky fun. For the couples, I am open to bisexual play but have never done anything with couples before.

I'm a cute, nerdy and goofy guy searching for a gentle/soft and sensual domme to explore this D/s dynamic with. I'm NOT looking for an ONS or a hookup, but something more long-term (or short-term depending on how things go, but definitely not looking for just a one time thing). Also not looking for a 24/7 dynamic. I have my own life and work and it takes precedence over this, but we can keep an open communication online and get together once or twice a week or depending on how our schedules align.

I'd also like to preface this by saying that I have no experience in the realm of D/s but have been interested in exploring this dynamic with a lady for a few years now. It's just a matter of finding the right woman I get along and vibe with. I also cannot host unfortunately, but that may change in a few years. I can, however, travel to you.

Basically, I am mainly looking for a gentle domme or a domme-leaning switch to hang out with maybe once a week or a few times a month and do things together. Mainly sexual, but also looking to cuddle, watch tv shows and movies, and be your sub in all other aspects. I'm not 100% a sub, so if you're a switch, we can definitely try switching roles but for the purposes of this post, I am mainly looking to explore my sub side. Besides the sexual and physical attraction, I am hopefully looking for a mental and emotional connection as well. Hence the search for a "gentle" domme, I want to be in a positive space to explore my sexuality and worship a lady's mind and body, and also be freaky with, without any degrading or humiliating aspects. I want to swoon over you and the thoughts of engaging in sexual acts with you. Hopefully.

Some of the kinks I'm interested in exploring:

Light femdom and bdsm, facesitting, cunnilingus and fingering, being edged and milked, panty play (sniffing your panties, JOI to panties, etc. I love women's panties), JOI, mutual masturbation, rimming the lady and eating her ass out (this one has been a huge turn on lately), sexual acts while being blindfolded, gentle teasing and making me flush in embarrassment, prostrate fingering and anal stuff like pegging, kissing and making out, watersports (maybe), footjobs, blowjobs in a femdom aspect, having my dick and body used solely for your pleasure, you riding me while I'm either blindfolded or tied up or both, massaging you. And so on.

I have a fairly high sex drive and can be quite sexually adventurous with the right person. We can also talk about limits but I'm not into anything hardcore, humiliating, crossdressing, or degrading. I'm just a cute guy looking for a lady who knows what she wants and I'd like to follow along for the ride.

About me:

I'm a super chill, respectful, kind and empathetic person. My hobbies include playing volleyball, doing yoga, reading (trying to make this my primary hobby but too busy with work), watching movies and tv shows (I'm into pretty much everything except horror), driving around and just thinking about random stuff. I'm more of a lone wolf but trying to get out there and meet new people as well. I am slightly neurodivergent and have a lot of interests; none I would call a "hobby" but rather me just trying out different things out of a sudden interest. I also come off as a pretty masculine person but I am more timid and a little shy than anything else.

Physical characteristics: black hair, light brown skin, brown eyes, decent shape (abs are still visible but dad bod is definitely coming along haha), 5'8, on the hairier side but I trim my body, stubble beard, and wear glasses. I am also working on myself and trying to improve my life by changing and adding a few positive habits into my daily lifestyle. I enjoy deeper conversations about life and spirituality and philosophy and love to debate on random topics. I'm a fan of history, economics, political theory, space, science, nutrition, biology, and basically everything. I do have an ADHD mind which has both its pros and cons. I have mild social anxiety and prefer text over other forms of digital communication, and then voice calls over video calls. I feel like my anxiety increases during a video call (usually, but not always) even though my work involves me being in Teams calls all the time haha. I drink socially (mainly coolers) and also 420 friendly but only do it occasionally. Not at all a dealbreaker. Also a huge fan of sexting, so we can keep the sexual rush and attraction alive by sexting throughout the week until we meet up again.

So here's my application. If this post piques your interest, please reach out to me via DMs and we can chat online for a bit, do a face exchange, and then perhaps go out on a coffee or movie date sometime before actually doing anything sexual. I'm not in a rush for this to happen.