Hi there

I’m a 28M, born and raised in Toronto.

I’ve been working on it intentionally but I’m not comfortable with myself and my sexuality… yet. I’m fine when things are platonic but I still get really anxious around women whenever intimacy is on the table. I’m hoping to meet and connect with someone who’s comfortable with themselves and their sexuality. I’d like to pick your brain about it and hopefully it’ll rub off on me or at least inspire me to continue with the self work I’ve been doing (im tired).

I experienced some trauma a few years ago and did a lot of therapy and inner work to overcome it. I’ve moved past it for the most part but I still haven’t regained much confidence in myself and my ability to act on my sexual desires is non existent.

I’m hoping that connecting with someone who is kind, patient and open will help me regain that confidence and comfort that I lost. A friends with benefits situation would be awesome. The friend part is really important to me because I value trust, connection and safety.it would be cool to find someone who I can be intimate with but also someone I can text, see movies with and have fun with.

I’m black, 6 feet tall, 190 pounds, and have black curly hair. I think I’m pretty average looking but I try to dress well and I prioritize my hygiene to maximize my presentation. I’m pretty shy and reserved but I open up fairly quickly. I enjoy movies, learning how to draw/paint, watching/playing sports, meditation, reading, writing short stories and spending time in nature. Sexually, I’m pretty vanilla and inexperienced but I’m open to exploring and my main goal is to always maximize my partner’s pleasure.

I’m not super particular about who I meet, I’m pretty open minded. No real preferences outside of someone who is warm, kind, confident and patient. Ideally I’d like something ongoing.

If you feel inspired to send a chat, please include your favourite movie so I know you’re a real person.

Happy Halloween 🎃👻