Hi,

I'm looking for some fun with someone that's looking for the same dynamic.

I'm pretty dom and I have plenty of experience with it. I won't explain the entire psychodrama of what I like, but I will mention what I think makes it work.

We all know that dom/sub roles have to do with power and what some of it looks like, be it hair pulling, spanking, choking, bossing around, etc., would be pretty typical with what would make for a dom experience. But honestly, it's not really exciting unless the dirty talk sells it, and it has to come in large part from the dom. Getting lost in the experience and saying everything you mean with conviction is what makes it hot. Simultaneously, it goes a long way if the sub can also dirty talk, with most of it playing along with whatever role play is going on or set up for the dom to suggest in which direction to take it. In this, you have the flexibility to explore more role play, be it the "brat" that needs to be subdued, or some other power dynamic.

More than anything, and I can't stress it enough, what holds it together is the contrast between violating and nurturing. Rough chaos for the sake of it without a break is overwhelming and it begins to lose touch. You need the gentle component to keep the experience grounded. Sex, no matter what form you have it in, comes in waves. There are moments of hypnotic lust and aggression, but also sensitivity and warmth. Powering through these natural parts for the sake of dom leads to desensitization of exactly the very thing that turned you on in the first place. By keeping a good balance you get to experience the entire breadth of what sex has to offer, which include it's small intimate moments as well as the lustful excitement. In my experience, those moments build off of one another. The intimate moments can only happen after hot lustful sex, and the lustful moments are further heightened by the gentle moments. And the aftercare from one round is the foreplay for the next one.

With trust and experience with your partner, it's exciting to move the needle to where you thought previously you wouldn't. Do the thing you thought you'd never do, try what's forbidden, and slowly explore.

If this sounds up your alley, send me a message. I'm tall, strong, and Caucasian, and happy to share pics and verify.