Sharing a success story from our search for a man to have sex with me in front of my partner:

In mid-March we posted an ad as a couple looking for a man here in this sub (r4rtoronto) https://www.reddit.com/r/r4rtoronto/s/a0af90zD8G for a rendezvous on April 6th. Within 48 hours we had 300 replies. We spent the next couple weeks sifting through the messages.

Inspired by another success post, we crafted our post looking for a laid back, fit, respectful, experienced man between 27-37.

Here are some things we think contributed to the good experience: -specific details about the kind of experience we were looking for: a sensual experience at my (f) pace and comfort, but mutually rewarding as opposed to a quick fuck; my sexual preferences. -specific details about the man we were looking for, -requirements to respond to our ad: fave outdoor activity, confirmation they can meet at specific time and date, as well as once before for a pre-meet, confirmation they fit our description; A picture but no up close dick pics.

The requirements helped us go through the all the messages. About 35 out of 350 met our requirements. We narrowed that down to 3 for a pre-meet, but there were still a lot of great choices left on the board. We ended up meeting two great choices. We had a really hard time choosing and went with who messaged first (u/Impressive_Lock3077) with an invitation to meet up with the other man another time. Despite all the messages that did not fulfill the requirements, we were both pleasantly surprised by the number of respectful and thoughtful messages we received. We hope they are still interested.

The night we met was just what we were hoping for! We started off with chatting and drinks shortly after he arrived at our hotel. About 40 mins in, I started kissing him while my partner watched and took pics of the fun! It was thrilling, exciting, and strangely normal given the nature of the rendezvous. My partner got a lot of sexy pics in many positions.

When we were done, we chatted briefly, he cleaned up and left. My partner and I had sex afterwords and the next few days were filled with reminiscing and talking about it with each other.

Additional things that made this a success:

-Ongoing discussion in chat about expectations, preferences, boundaries, and safety.

-in-person pre-meet was great for vibe check and determining interest.

-the fun, flirty, messaging beforehand and after was just as thrilling and positive/rewarding.

We hope you find this helpful!