Posting from a throwaway - just wanted to shout out u/JohnGotti4204, and share a little perspective about mutual aid!
A really wonderful redditor bought me groceries today, exactly as he said he would in his post. There were a surprising amount of critical comments, and I wanted to set some things straight.
I've used r4rtoronto for many years to meet dates, friends and to make connections. There's no denying that the vibe here is overwhelmingly sexual, but that doesn't mean that the user base are somehow less human, morally inferior or inherently dangerous. If we're all adult enough to meet up anonymously for sex, we're also adult enough to meet up anonymously for mutual aid.
My need for food/resources does not automatically mean I'm desperate, naive, nor does it turn off my critical thinking skills. His desire to help out doesn't automatically make him a predator. Someone made a clear, public offer, I accepted, we had a conversation that prioritized my safety and well-being, and he came through. We messaged and were kind and respectful throughout, we shared only the info necessary and we were done. He does not know my full name, address or phone number, which were all things he had specified in his post.
I want to stay positive, so I'll just say this: because of the kindness of a stranger, I get to eat real food this week. Fresh veggies, chicken, fruit, orange juice. I get to make dinner for my neighbour, who pretends to make too much food sometimes because she knows I can't afford to eat by the end of the month. And I got to meet a friendly face and have a nice conversation.
I'm so grateful, and I hope this can inspire others to let go of prejudice disguised as concern for women.
Anyway, here's some proof for the cynics. Hope y'all have a lovely day.
Again, where in his original post did he say he was expecting something sexual? Also, youâre 23. You should not be typing the way you are. Grow the fuck up. Maybe thatâs why youâre having no success on dating apps with the attitude youâre giving out.
But how am I racist? Do you know me personally or are you just assuming based on what Iâve posted on the internet?
Huuuuuuuuh, have I posted looking for said white dick?
Did an Asian girl reject you and now you feel like you have some sort of vendetta against them? Another red flag that women should avoid you. Good god.
Where did it ever say in his original post that he was looking for âplayâ? SMH, people canât do nice things for each other without expecting sexual shit.
I know youâre not the same person, lol. Given the way youâre speaking to me is a red flag to any woman, tbh.
Iâve posted content Iâve had with Caucasian men, so how does that equate to me asking for white dick? Your logic is kind of skewed there.
Iâd recommend getting some therapy because boy oh boy, if this is how you talk to women, itâs concerning.
Huuuuuh? What drugs am I using/doing besides weed? LOL, why are you talking as if you know me? 𼴠so you expect him to go into a grocery store and stay there for a few hours to see if people need help? Thatâs definitely a better option, right? đ¤
God, reading your response hurts my head.
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We loooooove shoving stereotypes onto women. At my age, I should be starting at family? Should I also start using messenger pigeons again?
Again, itâs no wonder youâre not getting any responses from women on dating apps. We can spot the red flags from miles away.