You can see in my post history that I post here once in a while looking for someone to hook up or just hang out with. It's always tough out here for us guys so I try and make my posts funny and welcoming. Without fail, Everytime I post I get two or three people who message, sometimes they just ghost right after I send a photo which hurts but i understand, sometimes it's dudes, and others go a lot like this:
Them: Oh wow you're so handsome
Me: you're pretty hot yourself
Three or fours hours of flirting usually consisting of them saying they're submissive and me telling them what I'd like to do with them, which they seem to enjoy.
Then I try and plan a meetup or a date, always giving the option to meet somewhere public first so that they feel comfortable. They pretty much always say yes at first, just to ghost the day before the meetup or string me along for a while before ultimately ghosting. I have met people from here so I know some people are serious, but not for a while now. Are you really so cowardly that you can't even say you're not interested anymore? Was the intention just to string me along from the beginning? I know the first thought is that these people are fake but I usually verify one way or the other.
Edit: if you're a woman seeing this, feel free to mention why you might have ghosted a guy in the past, tell us why so we can improve.
Also since I used my weekly post to post this:
If you're also tired of ghosting or like some of my previous posts send a chat ;)
I think it's just the nature of the dating/hook up scene. There are so many options, and always "something potentially better" almost instantly.
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