Hello, lovely people of r/r4rToronto! Hope everyone is having a great week so far.

As promised, here is my data breakdown (inspired by u/bakeswhilecrying's posts)! Just a heads up, this post will be lengthy as I included the statistics, some rants, a little bit of advice, and my overall experience. The success story will be at the very end.

First, before we dive in, I wanted to talk about how I set my account up for success. As soon as I submitted my post, I immediately changed my settings to only allow accounts 30 days and older to send chat requests and I've closed my DMs to everybody as well. This helped filter out new accounts and as a result, I only got 178 chat requests (as of today)! Whenever I posted before, my inbox would easily rack up to 300 DMs and chat invites combined and this system helped me cut the work for me in half. 5/7 would recommend it!

Now, let's move on to the statistics part:

Looking for 35 :

• Only 58 users were 35 . Out of those guys, there were 18 users who claimed to be exactly 35. Surprise surprise! Some are actually NOT 35 but rounded up their age to fit the criteria. I mean, you know I can see your posts and comments right?
• 52 users were below 35.
• 68 users did not disclose their age at all.

Looking for someone single:

• 16 users indicated they were single.
• 3 users were in an open relationship/marriage
• 5 users straight up said they are married or in a relationship. Not sure if they are ENM. Also, please don't do this. Not sexy.
• The rest of the messages (154) did not disclose their status. Why I'm looking for someone single? Simply because I do not wish to be a part of anyone's mess ^{just my own}.

Looking for an experienced lover and someone who loves to please:

• I didn't know how to measure this criterion, but I appreciate the very polite users who weren't vulgar with their descriptions.
• A lot of the messages were over-hyping their skills or overpromoting themselves. I say no need to go that far, just be genuine and not be gross! I don't need to read your coke-sized cock will destroy me and leave me trembling.
• There were 6 explicit and fanfiction-y messages I received. Yeah, that wasn't entertaining. It got me all dry as a desert instead.

Open to all body types but heavy preference for dad bods:

• 22 users described themselves as having dad bods and some had photos to back it up. Just because I mentioned dad bod is my preference, it doesn't mean a one-liner "Hey, guy with dad bod here" is going to work.
• 56 other users indicated their body types (fit, muscular, average, slender, chubby, etc).
• 100 users didn't mention anything.

Looking for someone vaccinated and DDF:

• I didn't really measure this, it was mostly just a deterrent for anti-vaxxers from messaging me.

Looking for someone who can host in Mississauga or Downtown Toronto:

• 15 users were able to host in Downtown Toronto while 16 users claimed to be from Toronto but never specified where.
• 10 users can host in Mississauga.
• Interestingly enough, I've received messages from 7 users who are not from Ontario or Canada (3 from the US, 1 from Europe, and the rest are visiting from elsewhere).
• There were 27 users from GTA and other neighbouring cities (Brampton, Burlington, Oakville, Oshawa, Vaughan, etc).
• The rest (103) never mentioned their location.
• The location wasn't very important, to be honest, it was mostly if the person can host or not.

Magic word: Mango!

• 86 users DID mention mango. A lot of you got pretty funny and clever with it! What I learned from this sub is a lot of us are mango lovers. Mango supremacy!
• While 92 users didn't mention any mango.

Tell me a little bit about yourself and include photos:

• This is the one thing I was very flexible about. I just wanted to see a bit more of your personality and how you communicate. I wasn't really keen on the idea of exchanging a few words and pics and then bumping uglies the next hour or so. I wanted to chat with someone first, get to know them, see if there's chemistry, and ultimately have some fun.
• 5 users brought up the movie "Whiplash" which is my all-time favourite movie! Either they saw my comments or my banner in my profile. Either way, kudos to you! :)
• Very impressed that I only got 2 dick pics!
• I got a message asking if I would take his virginity... Err, I guess they did shoot their shot but missed the hole.
• 50 users willingly shared their photos and some pointed me to their profiles.

I've been posting on r4rToronto and other subs to meet people for quite some time now and I've successfully made connections with Redditors in the past few years. Here are some of my suggestions to have a better experience meeting new people:

NOTE: Everyone is different. Just because I suggested it doesn't mean it's the optimal way. I'm someone who needs to know one's personality first. I need some sort of banter, I need to get to know you, and I need to see if there's chemistry. Maybe others aren't into that and would rather have a straight-to-the-point approach. So, always try to match the energy of the post you're replying to!

• Please respect the post's criteria. If the requirements are flexible, then go for it! But if not, don't force your way in. Some criteria can be non-negotiable and a dealbreaker even, like age for me.
• Avoid any crass remarks. Not appealing imo. I could also add avoid dick pics but depending on the post.
• A solid 1-3 paragraphs explaining why the post appealed to you, how you fit the bill, and a brief description of yourself would be ideal! Refrain from sending one-liners or just a "hey" (again, this can vary depending on the OP).
• Don't be pushy! Please be respectful. I can't believe I have to say it. Don't be like this.
• I know you are horny and touch-deprived, but that doesn't mean your dick should do the talking. Be yourself and not the horndog side of you! (Release the horndog once you find someone to be comfortable with.)

While 178 chat invites aren't so bad, it still took a little bit of time to go through everyone's messages. So I apologize if I never got back to you! I've replied to a few guys to politely reject them when I had the time. I'm still slowly responding to some, especially the ones who clearly put a lot of effort into their first message.

Now, onto my experience. I replied to six well-articulated messages with intriguing details about them. Two of the exchanges started with an exciting banter back and forth but ended up not pursuing anything or we just had no chemistry. One guy I replied to was very eager at first but then cancelled a couple of days before we were supposed to meet. Another one was pretty busy with their schedule and things didn't really pan out.

That leaves us with the success story! Well, actually, there are two of them :)

Success Story #1:

Let's call him Tony. He's a charismatic and witty individual who exuded a vibe reminiscent of Iron Man's playboy era. His first message checked all the boxes I'm looking for and left a small tidbit of his personality. We hit it off instantly but he had a very busy work schedule and lifestyle so we couldn't meet when we were both ready. It was fine with me, I wasn't really in a rush. We also agreed on a blind date, and foregoing picture exchanges (yes, this is dangerous and it went against what I wished for in my post). Our schedules conflicting made it hard to set up a meeting, so I was losing a bit of hope.

Fortunately, I did not give up. After a week, we arranged a spontaneous night out. I got to the bar first but there was a bit of a wait and the music was really loud. I chose to stay and waited for him before deciding if we want to go somewhere else. He arrived shortly after and met him outside. My god, he was such a stunning man! He wore a casual suit, smelled good, and brimmed with confidence.

We introduced ourselves to each other, had small talks, and joked around. We agreed to walk over to a different venue since the bar was loud and packed. As we were walking, he told me he finds me attractive and he was fighting the urge to kiss me, I then playfully said, "I won’t mind if you did." And that's when we stopped, he pulled me close, and he kissed me. Not even 10 minutes into our date and things were getting steamy!

We arrived at the other bar and we both got a drink. We started talking about our deepest and darkest secrets. We laughed, flirted, and teased each other. I have to admit, I was trying my hardest to seduce and impress him. It got me wet listening to him talk. Then, we finished our drinks and left the bar. As we were walking out, he pulled me into a dark corner of the plaza where we made out some more. Being two horny tipsy individuals, we agreed to get a hotel room.

When we got to our room, he was never pushy. He was such a gentleman and would frequently ask if I'm okay to continue or if I want to leave. LEAVE?! At this point?! Heck no. We continued making out then undressed each other. He ate me out til I came and boy he was fantastic! We were both tired to continue further but we cuddled for the rest of the night and talked some more before heading home. Overall, it was a terrific night!

Success Story #2:

For my second story, let’s call him Graciano. His initial message radiated genuine kindness and gentleness, and our photo exchange solidified our mutual interest. Our convo flowed naturally and we hit it off nicely. We talked about hobbies, dating, relationships, work, Reddit meetups, and general tomfoolery. We didn't go overly sexual, which I appreciated a lot! He was very chill and laidback.

After a couple of days of chatting, we made plans and decided to meet at a bar. I got there first then he arrived soon afterward. He looks exactly like his photos - handsome and dashing! He approached me and asked, "May I buy you a drink?" which was really cute since I mentioned I like things like that. We sat in the quieter part of the bar, ordered drinks, and got to more talking. While listening to him, I couldn't help myself but think, "Fuck, I just want him so bad!" I didn't say anything as I wanted him to take the initiative.

When we finished our drinks, we agreed to continue the night, so he drove us back to his place. He made us drinks (he made me a mojito - delicious!), then we chilled for a bit on his couch as we sipped on our cocktails, and that was when he made his move. He reached in for a kiss and we did lots of touching and heavy petting. He sucked on my tits and pulled and nibbled on my nipples until it got sensitive.

We made our way to his bed where he ate me out for what seemed like hours. He was very patient, enjoyed giving, and absolutely skilled! I couldn't take it anymore so I begged him to fuck me and he happily obliged. Man, I had to grip his bed sheets tight - he was so thick! I gasped for air as he pounded my hole. We also explored the Dom/sub dynamic by letting him spank my ass until it got all red. We would take breaks here and there, cuddle for a bit, then he gave me a massage (couldn't say no to that!).After our horizontal cardio session, he drove me to the station and made sure I got home safely. I was so sore the next day but that's okay! It was worth it :)

I think that's everything from me. Always stay safe! Enjoy the rest of your summer :)