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29M, Sri Lanka or Anywhere. Looking for a Christian women who believes in the Christian values of marriage, wants to create memories and grow old together.
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Svida100 is age 29 in Sri Lanka
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Hi, I am 29 and seeking a Christian partner to spend the rest of my life with.

My personality: positive, outgoing and believes in learning from my mistakes and is willing to change, adapt and become someone better.

Hobbies:

Cycling

Mountain Climbing

Photography

Running

Traveling

Watching Movies

Listening to music

Reading

Cooking

Heading out into the Ocean on a Jet ski

Watching the sunset at the beach

Nature walks

Swimming is a hobby I would love to have in the future

Areas of interest: Business for now, my interest tend to change over time.

Work: Marketing, where I am featured in some advertisements and Logistics in an Engineering firm at the moment. I did own a company once, yet, had to shut it down due to COVID-19 followed by a national economic crisis.

Family: No siblings, just my parents.

Education: Two Diplomas in IT and Business, a Bachelors Degree in Business

House: I have my own

Smoking: Never have and never will as I saw my grandpa suffer in hospital.

Adaptability: I have lived in my own country and abroad and to me location does not really matter, what matters is where my future partner wants to live.

Ideal partner: Someone who believes in Christian marriage values yet of putting God first in the marriage, will not cheat and be loyal to one another. Someone who wants to create memories together and grow old together.

Open to compromise: I am willing to make changes and compromise and adapt to become a better husband as I believe once married a wife is the most important person in my life where I should always treat her with respect value her.

Business Goals: Get married and build a business together with my partner, so that we have something financially stable when we get old and can experience the thrills and challenges of working together and building a business.

Financial Management: I write down all my expenses in a Notebook and budget accordingly. This method helps me know exactly what i spent on and what as such it does not matter to me in a marriage if both husband and wife share bank accounts or keep the finances separate.

Preferred relationship styles: Traditional/Complementarian or Egalitarian

Decision making: If its a Traditional/Complementarian: My way of making a big decision is to use a notebook to write down the pros, cons, benefits, issues etc and carefully think about it. I believe that this method will also help me discuss with my future wife add her thoughts to think it over even further before coming to a conclusion.

Decision making: Egalitarian: Same method as Traditional/Complementarian except for the fact that instead of just me who will make the decision the wife can also do the same.

Christian journey: Born into a Christian family and was born again when I was a teenager and baptized during the same time period and at present attends Young Adults Fellowship group and goes to church every Sunday. Experienced the healing power of Jesus first hand.

My Christian values and beliefs: I strongly believes in the Biblical values "sex after marriage", "no cheating" and "till death do us apart to love each other through sickness and health".

Personally, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I can keep and adhere to these values because I have only been in one relationship which ended in April this year with a Catholic women from the other side of the world who once we met in person said she hated Church. She also lied about her age where in reality she was 10 years older, yet, looked like she was 20 years older with grey hair, teeth missing and had previously sent me photos of herself when she was 29.

I still choose to ignore the physical appearance issues, her short temper and the constant pressure and tension she kept putting me through and love her and be loyal to her for who she was until she broke it off when people mistook us for mother/son or thought she was my aunt where she felt that I needed someone my own age.

People say I am crazy, and I am sure I would have said the same before but I see it as an extreme test I went through where I found out far I was willing to tolerate and be how loyal and faithful I am to someone regardless of how that person's appearance changes when I truly love someone. It also revealed a lot of other aspects about me where I was patient when getting scolded for something small as arriving 10 minutes early (yes, early). In fact, I never argued back or scolded her as I never wanted to hurt her feelings in any way. This is of course is unhealthy and have come to realize that a relationship where both partners are equal is the way to go. Letting one partner take over completely and have the upper hand can create a lot of pressure and stress.

The greatest challenge in life has been finding a Christian women to spend the rest of my life with. Every time, I come across someone I like she is either engaged or is in a relationship where a few months to a year later this she ends up getting married.

I have prayed and had faith in God for 14 years (yes, I started praying as a teenager with the intent of getting married by 24) yet, every women who has been interested in me or wanting to date me or consider me as a marriage partner has been either an atheist, hates God due to past issues with the Church or is from another religion. I have tried my best to find answers as to why this keeps happening by talking to different pastors, trying different churches and even praying about all to no avail.

I don't want to be unequally yoked, yet, given the fact I have never been able to date a Christian women I worry that a few years from now I will have no choice but to marry a non-christian.

We can start by being friends and if you think I am someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with then we can get married and start building our life together.

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