Take two! Since the last time I posted this, I hope to have made things a bit clearer on what I am and am not looking for.

About me: 34, 5'10', exceedingly curvy, an enthusiastic bookworm and fantasy/sci-fi nerd who enjoys games and watching gamers who don't suck (FFXIV raider, Emet-Selch has my whole entire heart). A foodie who enjoys hunting down good cheap eats in the city, childfree, part of the kink community, and married. In an open relationship and happy to have you contact my other half to prove it. I'm not interested in cheaters, unhappily married men, or "not looking to change my situation or yours" guys.

What I'm looking for: I want to be friends who bang sometimes. Friends first, banging second, but I *do* want there to be banging. I'm not here JUST for the sex, so you don't have to send me a message saying "hey" and your penis size. Please actually tell me something about you! I'm attracted to dominance, so if you're looking to explore your feminine/submissive side, you can give me a miss--I wish you all the success in the world, but bossing you around in bed doesn't make me wet.

At least 21 for minimum age, maximum is probably 45 (there need to be a few cultural touchstones we can share, haha).

Not looking for a one-night stand. I'd ideally like my partner to visit every couple weeks or monthly at minimum, so if you're on the other side of the country, unless you're willing to make that drive every month... I'm DDF with papers to show and need you to be, too.

Consider me a cactus: low-maintenance, self-sufficient, but ignore me *too* long and even I get grumpy.

The most important thing to me is your communication skills. I'm a long-standing member of the irl kink community and have experience with polyamory, and in both of those, the more information, the better. You won't overwhelm me. Tell me everything you're comfortable with. Your kinks, your squicks, and so on.

I get along better with artists, and geeks, and outcasts, and people who are just a little bit 'off'. We probably won't be a great match if sports are your primary form of entertainment, simply because I know jack-all about sportball and don't care to learn.

Previous experience with open relationships would be neat, if you've got it.

So yes, tl;dr, local girl looking for friends with benefits situation, emphasis on both friends *and* benefits.

Hope to hear from you!