** IMPORTANT: Do make sure you’ve read all of this before reaching out to me! I appreciate that this is quite a lengthy read, but I’ve put in the time and effort to articulate what I’m looking for to avoid wasting everyone’s time. You’ll get a very full sense of who I am, what I’m looking for and what I’m hoping you’re like. Now please extend the courtesy of at least having read it in full before saying hello. : ) If you can’t make it to the end then I guarantee you will not be able to handle my level of communication. Get a drink, get cosy and let’s begin… **

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Hello there! I go by ‘Amara’ online. Nice to meet you! 👋🏾

Quick summary of what I’m searching for: I’m looking for an older ‘take charge’ gentleman to develop a connection with, shower with affection and attention and to be mentored by.

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What I’m hoping you’re like: - Caucasian - American, Canadian, Australian or East Asian - Ideally around the ages of 35-50~ (soft limit with some wiggle room) - Single (HARD LIMIT. No married guys and no ENMs/Polys. I’m a greedy little gremlin and I’m not looking to share right now! 😋). - Monogamous with the open mindedness for potentially opening the bedroom up for one-off play sessions. This would be with mutually picked partners but in the waaay off future. - I have a weakness for men with accents. The Californian accent or Southern drawl especially is like an instant boarding pass. - Not overly muscular nor extremely weighty in build. I do like a little bit of a dad bod! - Smaller physical attributes (hair colour, eye colour etc.) don’t really matter to me though I would prefer a little bit of hair. It gives something to grip on to! Not entirely a dealbreaker, however, if there is a great connection.

I’d like to exchange photos pretty early on to make sure there’s a mutual attraction. No hard feelings on either side if the attraction isn’t there. I believe nobody should have to ‘settle’ and we all deserve to be with someone that we find insatiably desirable.

For now, here’s my description: - 26, 5’2”. - Light-skinned, black British female. - Dark brown eyes. - Curly dark brown hair. Both almost look black unless I’m in the sun where the true colour shines through. - 180lbs and declining (thanks to 75Hard!) - Ample bosom and butt (thanks to genetics!). - Ears pierced, no tattoos. - Never married, zero kids.

My personality and what I enjoy:

The Vanilla Stuff - Demisexual, Sapiosexual, Bisexual. - Insomniac so I’m often up at weird hours of the night. - Reading - currently going through Greek mythology start to finish and discovering new mystical erotica writers. - Video games. - Game Development - 3D modelling apparel and environment rigging and animation. - Web Development. Learning front end and back end development to become a Full Stacks Dev on the side.🤞🏾 - VERY Amateur Woodworking. - Slip casting and ceramics. - Woods and forests for strolls and hikes. - And a variety of fibre-arts! - Would love to try my hand at cosplay next year and I already have the perfect outfits in mind! 70s Ororo Munroe (X-Men Storm). That two piece leotard, thigh highs with a cape. chef’s kiss ♥️ And Teen Titans (Original) Rachel Roth (Raven). I guess I have a thing for leotards and capes. 🤷🏾‍♀️ - I LOVE asking and receiving questions; and, as you can see from this post, I adore lengthy messages so please be inquisitive and talkative! There’s a lot of conversation starters here and beyond.

The Not-So-Vanilla Stuff - ✨ Brat / Sub / Accidental Occasional Domme / Middle (DDMG) ✨ You don’t have to like all of the same things that I do but having some overlap to talk about would be nice. Here’s a list of some of my interests: - D/s Dynamics - DDMG - Spanking - Choking - Face Slapping - Light Verbal Possessive Degradation - Collars And Gags - Blindfolds And Hoods - Wax Play - Restriction/Pinning/Cuffs/Spreader Bars - Roleplay - Sexting/Photo Exchange - CNC - Rutting - Primal - Forced Orgasm - Shibari …to name a few.

Okay, now that the bullet points are out of the way… if you’re still here and interested then I’d like to finish up by expressing what I’m looking for in a connection and why.

~ Outside of the bedroom | I’m hoping that whilst you have a ‘take charge’ mindset in the bedroom, you have a firm, yet softer, persona outside of the bedroom that allows me to be a bit of a ‘dom caregiver’.

One of my main ‘love languages’ is acts of service and I tend to autonomously ensure everyone’s needs are met. Whether it’s making sure you’re fed and your cup is full, keeping up with appointments, upcoming celebrations and gift wrapping to medicine, hot water bottles and head massages when you’re sick.

Now, by no means am I referring to being nothing more than a subservient 1950s housewife stereotype. I do these things as a show of affection… because I want to, when I want to. NOT out of a sense of obligation and ‘tradition’.

I’m headstrong and will speak my mind. I’m the dom in my own life and have to be to have gotten where I am plus where I want to get to.

So, I’m not looking for anyone who wants a meek, yes-woman who will wait on them hand and foot… I’m not looking for someone who wants to ‘tame’ or diminish and pacify the spirit that I have built. But rather I want someone who is looking for their equal.

Someone to gently fan this fire so that we can both be great, together, in our own individual yet harmonious ways… (Unless, of course, we’re roleplaying then by all means let that misogynistic freak flag fly! 😋)

~ Inside the bedroom | In the bedroom, however, I want you to grab the bull by the horns and put me in my place.

At the end of the day, I’m tired of having to be the strong dom for everyone else and just want to find someone who will let me melt completely in their open arms. At last being able to relinquish the remaining shred of my control, fully knowing that I am safe.

~ Brattiness | I’m a ‘playful’ bratty sub. My form of ‘disrespect’ is playful teasing and rebellious defiance. I like to gently poke the bear and run away when it’s finally riled up. I expect to face the consequences of my actions but that won’t stop me from batting my big, brown eyes at you and pleading for forgiveness… Which you’ll give me because I’m your sweet girl… Sucker. 😋 I like to run until I’m caught, kick until I’m pinned and gently nibble until I’m gagged.

~ Adventurous | My interests list above is by no means exhaustive, with new things being added to it fairly regularly.

Though the list is long, there is still a large part of it that is yet to be physically explored.

I’m looking for a safe, reliable space in which to do that with an experienced, patient ‘take charge’ gentleman who is happy to show me the (sometimes literal) ropes.

Mentor me in the experiences I’ve yet to try and guide me in perfecting the things you enjoy most. I want you to turn me into your personal, custom-made toy.

I’m hoping you’re equally adventurous, wanting to grow and explore new things together.

Toys, outfits, scenes, clubs and hidden gems. There’s a whole world of fun out there to be explored and I’m willing to bet it would be better shared.

~ Relocating | In regards to long distance and relocating, I’m up for moving to an entirely different country for the right person.

Not at this current point in time but definitely in the future should things progress and remain steady.

My goal has always been to move to either California or Canada so I’ll eventually be in either USA or CA regardless. I’m flexible on where exactly within these countries I’d move to.

But, as an overly ambitious heads-up, should we ever be cohabiting a home together, I fully intend to repurpose a whole room (or basement) into a depraved little playroom, filled with all sorts of devious devices for both to enjoy.

If you’ve made it this far then perhaps you’re the person I’ve been looking for…

If you think so then I’d love to hear from you.

Send me a message, opening with a little bit about yourself: your name, age, location, SFW interests/hobbies and NSFW shared interests. If you say ‘pickled purple cabbages’ in your opening message and you’ll stand out from the crowd. : ) Also please include a description or yourself/be prepared to send a selfie.

Let’s get to know each other and see where this goes. ☺️

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• Any ‘hi’ or short/low effort responses will be indicative that you have not properly read this post and WILL be ignored.
• I will also cease responding to those who cannot hold a conversation. AKA talks at length about themselves but regularly does not return questions for the conversation to grow from.