(Lengthy post. Grab some popcorn🍿)

To the person who is interested in making me his person… Good luck. May the odds be in your favor.

I am an INFJ. An Advocate personality in every sense of the word. For those of you who don’t know, check out 16personalities.com. I am someone with Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging personality traits. I approach life with deep thoughtfulness and imagination. I am a fierce personality type and tend to fall in love easily but I don’t really show as much affection until I’m in a committed relationship because most men know how to play the game (in which I’m not interested in learning and hate being a part of). In short. Get to know me.

Before I continue, let me just say the following: If you are of the LGBTQIA persuasion (love who you love, no judgement), Athiest, married, in a situationship, have a girlfriend, smoke, heavy drinker, swears like a sailor, love sending dick pics, are broke, and don’t have a job, is not interested in video chatting or exchanging pics or meeting up, can’t manage more than 3 lines in an initial message (I’m a writer so… if you can’t put in the effort) Don’t message me. Oh yeah… clingy drama-filled, gas-lighters; that goes for you too. No-Messago. ¿Entiendes? Jaja.

Now that we’ve gotten most of the time-wasters out of the way…

Hi there. I’m SJ. I'm a black woman, 5'7, and your average girl. I am looking for a friend (someone I can get to know and like) whose end goal is marriage👰‍♀ and children. I’ve had a tough abusive upbringing (received years of therapy for and occasionally goes for fine tuning) which has caused me to work as hard as I do. I work two jobs and volunteer at my college newspaper. I am an “A” student 🤓and I am excellent at my job. I spend many of my days alone and most of my friends are online. So being with someone in person is hard because I second-guess a lot of their intentions. I learn and trust through consistency, kindness, and actions. I am open to learning how to build with you if you are willing to communicate openly and invest.

With you, I will be doing a lot of firsts. You will be my first in-person relationship. You will be my first one-month-a-versary🥰. You will be the person that I will dress up, look nice for💃🏽, and feel safe with for years to come. You will be the person that I will feel safe with to cry in front of. You will be my first marriage, first home, first baby daddy, and all of the above. In return, you will get a true friend who (when I muster up the courage and feel more comfortable) will tell you the truth you don’t want to hear in a gentle way. I will make you laugh and encourage you as you encourage me. I will be someone who will learn your faults and aspire to accept them as we grow. You will be proud to call me your wife, I'm resourceful, thoughtful, and a people person.

I love to laugh, cuddle, and kiss💋, and I enjoy being in the water (don’t know how to swim🙄). I am a writer✍️, published author, and speaker🗣. I enjoy traveling✈️. My love language is receiving gifts and quality time. That means that yes, you will spend money💰💰 on me but also time⏳️. I’m not a gold digger. I also enjoy philanthropy work and have spent quite a number of years working for non-profits and hope to have my own in the future.

I am working on a few things in my life such as getting back into prayer. I’m struggling most with my faith in God and I would like someone who is on their journey of faith or is ahead of me and willing to help me grow more. (If you are a bible thumper and planning to bash me over the head about submission crap; I have a strong interest in kink😈, “The power of Christ compels thee!”) I am also wanting to slim down a bit because I am thick. Gorgeous but thicker than a snicker. I hope you enjoy a healthy lifestyle because we are having quinoa, broccoli, and tilapia or snapper (if you know what any of those are, BONUS!) When I’m not all rainbows and sunshine, I sometimes struggle with depression and anxiety but I manage it well with coping skills set in place. I can also be moody (iron deficiency, which I’m working on). If you can work with that (double Bonus).

I’m not looking for a project. I’m looking for a partner. Not one that I cook in a microwave and is ready to go but someone who I can take my time and let simmer or bake (if you understood any of that analogy, please message me. Intelligence is so sexy)

If you’ve read this far, message me with an intro and a photo of yourself. (my inbox gets full easily so please be patient, I will respond.)