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Oh what the hell...[48][M4A]ISO friendship, open to more, 18+
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soulpoker is a male looking for anyone in Buffalo, NY
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I have debated writing separate ads to address seeking people of separate sexes, but decided to be transparent with who I am for both so whoever might be interested knows a little more about me from the beginning.

I figure this interests me and I have nothing to lose, so I'll put up an ad and see what happens.

I'm a single lonely bisexual guy who's interested in getting to know folks younger than myself but still adult folks. My musical tastes maybe don't show it, but I'm young at heart, so younger folks will appeal to me. Plus everyone in my age group is concerned with families and other things that don't pertain to me, so I can't relate to them as well as I could to someone younger. And maybe there's something selfish about me wanting to remain in a young state of mind by hanging out with younger folks, but my hope is I can pay this "attitude," for lack of a better word, with passing along knowledge that I've gotten for being on this earth a few decades more.

Yes, my goal is a relationship of an intimate nature, hence the NSFW tag to cover all bases. But I will not specifically turn down an opportunity that is meant to remain platonic. And I admit freely, associating with someone up to thirty years younger can seem weird, even creepy. But these connections do happen in real life. And they must happen frequently enough, there's a whole subreddit dedicated to them, and I assume people do meet thru this subreddit. Plus you have my word I'm a gentleman. I might be "out there," but I make it a point to avoid making anyone ever feel uncomfortable with my words, actions, etc.

To put it succinctly in a way, if you're not interested, I'm not interested.

To make things clear, I'm not judging those that do, but I am not looking to be a sugar daddy. I know the rules of this subreddit forbid ads for or from such, but I want to be explicit in case circumstances allow for ambiguity on how this proscription is interpreted. Whatever kind of relationship comes up, whether it's plain old friendship, casual dating or something deeper, I want it to be of its own merit, not motivated by any sense of monetary or material compensation. It's very important to me we hang out with each other just because we want to hang out with each other.

If you're still with me, good. Thank you. 😊 My wordiness is kind of a test to see who has the intellectual patience to read through all of this. As you might be able to tell, I like to think a lot, and I'd rather be with those wo can relate. Someone who realizes the way things seem to be are not necessarily the way things are is whom I'm looking for. I want to challenge and be challenged intellectually, and grow together in that respect, whatever the nature of our relationship. Plus, to be frank, I find intelligence very sexy. Brains! Nom nom nom!

Now we come to the part where I get specific to what I'm looking for in terms of gender. For me, and of course for many, bisexuality doesn't imply I am indifferent to the difference of the sexes, or I'm looking for the same exact thing with each gender.

I'm looking for more of a sexual relationship with a guy. I've been struggling with my sexuality since my early 20s and only last year officially accepted myself as a bisexual. I have zero experience with the same sex, to be clear. And I'm very eager to start exploring same sex pleasure. But again I'm not pushing for anything that isn't right, so if you're not ready to "go there" but have tons of questions, you can count on me to tell you whatever I know, hopefully being of use to you.

Either way having a friendship along with this is important to me. The idea of sex, even if it's just for fun, is very personal to me, so I'm not ready to hop right into the sack with just anyone. But also to be clear, there is virtually no chance of me falling in love with a guy. Yes, I want emotional closeness with anyone I would sleep with. But I do not see myself having a spouse of the same sex.

My expectations of making contact with a member of the opposite sex are practically nonexistent, not just with this post but in general. But as the title of the post implies, I have nothing to lose. With a younger lady, I'm open to more, specifically emotionally. But let's be frank: the bigger the age gap, the less we have in common, and the less chance of any kind of meaningful romance developing. But shit happens. Sometimes some of the pieces fall in place. On rare occasions, a significant enough number fall in place. Is exclusivity on the table? Yes. But let's be realistic and assume at most there will be a friendship, maybe benefits, and leave it at that.

I hope to get some positive response out of this.

tl;dr text: we're all adults here, I'm looking for males and females, more drawn to younger, looking for friendship, open to benefits (more benefits with females), won't push myself, be in it to be in it, try to be smart.

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