Like the title says, I’m a trans guy who’s looking for a genuine connection in the horny weasel-pit of cyberspace! I’m in a long term polyam relationship with a lower-libido (and more vanilla) cis male partner. After quite a long dry spell, I’m putting myself out here in the hopes of finding someone who I can enjoy an ongoing BDSM dynamic with. I’m looking for something serious, not ONS/hookups.

About me: otter build, facial hair, have been on testosterone for nearly a decade, have had top surgery but not lower surgery. I’m clean and get tested regularly - I will not have sex without a condom so please don’t ask. Attracted to all genders, could potentially be open to couples if you’re not creepy/toxic. I’m extremely kinky and open minded, have a very dry sense of humour. Non-smoker, no drugs, not a heavy drinker - ideally I’d like you to be similar.

I am interested in exploring my submissive side with someone who I can talk to as a person as well as a Dominant (preferably around my age so I know you’ll understand my pop culture references!). I’m not as concerned with your level of experience, but do want to take the time to get to know you and establish chemistry. The right dynamic will take time and work to build and the journey should be as much fun as the destination.

When I’m not looking for love/lust in all the wrong places, I’m a horror/sci-fi/fantasy nerd who likes to unwind with books, movies, older tv shows and music. I have an extremely demanding job which requires me to be in charge so I need a strong personality to match my energy. (Also means I can’t reply to messages instantly).

I’m sure the right person is out there (a diamond in the rough?) and I’m waiting to hear from you!

If you’ve read this far, please feel free to send me a message telling me a bit about yourself, and the last song you listened to (so I know you’ve read this far). Serious replies only please - if you’re only attracted to women, please don’t message me as these are not the droids you’re looking for.