Hi there - like the title says, I’m a trans guy who’s looking for a genuine connection in the horny weasel-pit of cyberspace! I’m in a long term polyam relationship with a lower-libido (and more vanilla) cis male partner. After quite a long dry spell, I’m putting myself out here in the hopes of finding someone who I can enjoy a BDSM dynamic with. I’m looking for an ongoing dynamic as part of a physical and mental connection (not here for ONS).

I’m not massively experienced but have educated myself enough to know that 50 Shades Of Grey isn’t a great example of BDSM done right. In all seriousness - I really don’t want to go the rest of my life keeping this side of myself stifled. Although I’m interested in both submission and dominance, I am more interested in submission.

I’m hoping to meet someone who I can explore this side of myself with - ideally I’d like to meet someone in a similar age bracket (I would feel like a creep getting involved with someone in their 20s unfortunately!). I’m not as concerned with your level of experience, so I don’t have unrealistic expectations that a leather-clad Dominant will drop out of the sky to fulfill my fantasy wish-list. The right dynamic will take time and work to build and the journey should be as much fun as the destination.

About me: top surgery yes, lower surgery no. Attracted to all genders, extremely kinky and open minded, have a very dry sense of humour. Non-smoker, no drugs, not a heavy drinker. Safe sex only (if and when it happens). I have an extremely demanding job which requires me to be in charge a lot, and I like to unwind with books, movies, older tv shows and music. Horror, sci fi and fantasy are some of my favourite genres. I’m more likely to be found watching Hannah Barbera cartoons from the 70s than binging the latest Netflix show.

If the chemistry is there, I’m ultimately interested in IRL but I want to move at my own pace and get to know you first. Communication, respect and trust are important to me. Please also understand that I have work and personal responsibilities which sometimes need to take priority (alas, the joys of being an adult!)

Being able to hold your end of a conversation is more impressive to me than a dick photo (and if you’re going to take one, I’m the sort of person who will notice your messy bedroom). I’m sure the right person is out there (a diamond in the rough?) and I’m waiting to hear from you!

If you’ve read this far, please feel free to send me a message telling me a bit about yourself, and the last song you listened to (so I know you’ve read this far). If you don’t know what Ftm is and you’re only attracted to women, please don’t message me as unfortunately we won’t be compatible.