I like reading, journaling, watching K-drama romances and martial arts films, SF&F, playing tui shou (tai chi’s push hands), cooking, learning things, music, expanded states of consciousness through meditation, and doing energy healing. This is what I look like: https://imgur.com/a/JHtV4lj

I’m looking for someone to get to know well in-person, who is emotionally/physically/mentally available for and interested in developing a healthy relationship. This could be as just friends, FWB (including actually being friends), or something as serious growing to love one another and becoming life partners. I’d love to have a grand and lasting romance. I’m a bit of an idealist, but pragmatic too. If I have a type, I’d say it’s smart and interesting people. Bonus points for a witty sense of humor - there’s nothing more fun (outside the bedroom) than riffing off of each other’s jokes and laughing together.

If you’re looking for NSA, hookups, casual only, or something devoid of emotions, please pass me by. Similarly, if you have an Asian fetish or a kink for the mean or sadistic, or have a partner you are cheating on, please look elsewhere. I’m also uninterested in sexting or online-only friends.

Here’s more about me: I’ve lived and worked in different parts of the world my whole life (5 continents so far), so I’m fairly comfortable (or equally uncomfortable) in a wide range of cultures and languages. I am half Asian and half white, Pinay and Asian American. I’m pretty good at mangling and muddling my way along in a few different languages too.

Professionally I like being of service to help people. I started out as an assistant and worked my way up to management in non-profit, philanthropic, and academic arenas, with some collaborations with multinational companies. I’ve worked in international development, and often find myself working in the intersection of leading edge science, technology, and humanitarian service. I’m quite interested in the future of humanity, and like to participate in large scale ventures that are improving lives, or at least attempting to avert humanity’s seeming mad dash towards extinction.

I also volunteer as a support group facilitator for a non-profit helping adult survivors of abuse and sexual trauma (yep, I’m a survivor too — as a sexy asian woman these things can happen — I’ve recovered well and studied martial arts, as one does after such things) and am generally fat and happy these days — though I could definitely use an activity partner to get more exercise too. Since covid I’ve gained more weight than usual, so everything is round and full.

After a recent visit with family in the Philippines, I’m more convinced that I’d like to live there for about half the year, and perhaps move there entirely. My family is wanting me to take over some (and eventually all) management of my parents’ property and pet project(s), a sprawling garden/jungle/beach/B’n’B/meeting-wedding-video-photoshoot venue/restaurant/children’s reading program/organic agricultural training program/educational foundation. It’s more local and hands-on than I usually operate, but it’s been sounding more and more like the right fit lately. Maybe you’d like to join me there someday? I’m thinking I’d expand into teaching tai chi classes, and maybe push hands workshops, and hosting English language instruction intensives/vacations. Write a novel or 10.

For dating, I’m open to getting to know an adult of any race, ethnicity, gender, body type, or age. I’ve dated cis hetero, bi, and enby men in the past, so there’s a general trend, but I’m open to other possibilities too. Love is love, right? The sweet spot for age seems to be 28 - 55 lately. Since most of Reddit is younger than me I thought “cougar” probably fits well enough in this context, though I’ve dated men older than me too.

In bed I like partners who care about my pleasure (or are willing to learn). I have a strong and healthy feminine sexual energy and adore multiple orgasms (and the people who enjoy making that happen). I admit to being a bit of a pillow princess, but am also GGG. If you love giving oral (or want to learn) I’d be happily available - and am happy to reciprocate too.

I am DDF, quadruple vaxxed for Covid, need you to wear a condom unless you’re snipped and we’re exclusive, and will want to see your recent STI test results prior to any intimacy. I’ll also want to talk about likes and dislikes —preferably in person — before launching into anything. Limits, boundaries, and consent are important too.

Ok! If you made it this far and are local, single, and still interested, please send me a nice note telling me more about who you are, your interests, and what you’re looking for. Best wishes for your search!