...whether you actually understand the term or just know the hit rock song by Mayday. I don't even speak Mandarin, but when someone mentioned the concept of "Wenrou (Tenderness)" on a forum, that spoke a lot to me. I can relate to the song too; it made me cry several times when I first watched the music video and read the translation. Powerful stuff.

I'm interested in friendship, romantic, sexual, or FWB, as far and as deep as you want and as my limited social and technical skills allow. I should probably be up front and say that I'm in a loving online relationship with another Asian, who is very much devoted to me - in fact, he's the one who suggested that I look for another lover or two to meet my emotional needs. He needs to work long hours and can't always be there for me. It baffles me how such a loving partner can say that, but his perspective is very practical and logical.

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If that's not enough to scare you away, I have to tell you more about me. I'm turning 33 this year, unemployed, unvaccinated, short, grossly overweight and unhealthy, sort of religious, and on the autism spectrum. I haven't learned how to talk over voice chat yet; it's overwhelming and talking on the phone terrifies me. I'm too insecure to post a pic publicly, and I've had my hair cut very short - boy cut short - since the lockdowns. So no, I'm not attractive at all, and I'd be the first to admit it. My attitude isn't hot either since I suffer from depression a lot. But even on good days, I am quite intense and emotional by default. Please be patient with me!

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I'm full-blooded Filipina as far as we could trace my ancestry, but I'm told that I look very Chinese or Korean. I like anime, but I'm not into video games. I love music and can read music, but can hardly play any instruments. Besides Mandopop, I also listen to a lot of "emo" rock music and classical music depending on my moods, which can be quite persistent and frustrating. I like anything Qin Empire, Romance of the Three Kingdoms and Journey to the West / Monkey King. I would love to find someone to watch Cao Cao or Qin Empire / Dynasty with, or listen to hard-hitting music and exchange emotional poetry / lyrics with.

Still here? I'm impressed that you read this far. Give yourself a pat on the back; you've earned it!
I hope you find a good dose of Wenrou today.