Howdy~!

I’m a 35-year-old Asian (American-born Taiwanese, if that matters) man located in the San Jose Bay Area, seeking a woman younger than me (I'm not too picky about this, anywhere from 23-32) with a similar background who’s tired of all the games and ready to explore a meaningful, intentional, committed relationship with open and consistent communication. I want to get to know each other early on while knowing that we are both intentionally seeing how our compatibility is like. If it doesn't go well, we can both be mature enough to let the other person know directly, without any pussyfooting, that that is the case. If it does work out, over the next few months, we can build something real as we grow closer. I want us to be able to truly call each other our best friends as we go through our future lives together.

A bit about me: I’m passionate about kendo and practice regularly, 4-5x/week. I also enjoy playing video games or watching shows together with friends over discord as a fun way to stay connected as time has pulled us more physically apart from each other. I've recently started to play Metaphor: ReFantazio, but my Steam annual recap says I mostly play hack-and-slash beat-em-up's hahaha

I work a stable job in the healthcare industry. While I make a respectable income for my field, I’m looking for a partner who can also pull her own weight financially. You don't need to be making big bucks, but you should have a stable source of income; living in the Bay isn't cheap! In terms of career/relationships, I place more importance on stability and living a quiet life, and value emotional availability/consistency and mutual support, respectively. In this day and age where economics are tighter, I do not expect you to be out renting your own place. I myself, as well as my sister, are all living at home together to save up for the future.

I place importance on all aspects of our connection, including chemistry and emotional connection; I also think that physical compatibility is a big part of that. I’m looking for someone who’s comfortable with more intimate physical touch within the first few meetups if we are both comfortable with it. We can take things at a pace that works for both of us as trust develops, but I do strongly think maintaining a physical connection when possible is essential as part of a relationship foundation. It may sound contradictory, but I need to repeat that I am not looking for a casual hookup or a fwb; I only want intimacy with someone who I really want to, and can, envision commitment with.

About me:

• 35, 5'8", 85 kg broad shoulders with a dad bod, American-born Taiwanese, based in the Bay Area. Dress well, good hygiene.

• Passionate about my kendo journey, and value maintaining friendships via my hobbies. I am physically active, but prefer more tranquil outside activity. For example, I'm not a huge fan of hard hikes, but do appreciate going out into nature on easy walks.

• Financially stable, looking for someone who can also hold her own

• Grounded, easygoing, communicative, and serious about finding the right person. I am securely attached, but lean anxious when stressed.

• Open-minded and respectful of boundaries, and also value emotional and physical connection

• Seeking a meaningful, intentional connection with someone who’s ready to choose commitment.

You:

• Female, 23-32, preferably Tw/Ch/Jp/Viet/Kr. If not, at least be someone willing to embrace East Asian culture. I will do the same for you and yours.

• Reasonably fit/active, to better match lifestyles.

• Someone local or willing to meet in the Bay Area so that we can have a physical connection. (I'm ok with online/long-distance too, but consistency of communication in this case will be very important)

• Tired of the games and knows what she wants. Ready to choose commitment and a genuine, intentional connection.

• Consistent, open communication. If you feel like it's not working out, please don't ghost me; tell me what changes you'd like to see or what you are not comfortable with, or just straight up say that it's not working.

• Financially stable and responsible, values family

• Willing to verify early (move off of reddit onto another chatting platform and video chat/exchange photos or meet in person) so we both know we’re real people, and on the same page about how we expect things will go

Let’s talk, connect, and see if we can build something great together!