Hey there. Just a heads up, this will be a long post because I am specific about what I want and you deserve to know what you are signing up for.
TL;DR; I’m an experienced, witty, well dressed American Dom looking for a sub, pet, or brat who is local and passionate about life and personal growth. She would want to be challenged and pushed both mentally and physically by her Dom and would be rewarded with a healthy and kinky relationship.
About me --> Who is this man?
The first thing I'll mention here is that I love words. Like fine wine, there is nothing to me like the feel of words well used to convey meaning inside and outside the bedroom. I am not certain words themselves are a kink, but they would be one of mine for sure. I would also say physical touch is also very important to me.
Physically – I’m 35, single, white, with dark brown hair and eyes. I’m active and hit the gym a few times a week. Non-smoker, clean, and recently tested (and DDF). Happy to verify each other with SFW photos early on.
Personality – Think Bill Burr and Seth Myers. I’m a mixture of witty wordsmith, deep thinker, with a healthy dollop of deviousness and depravity. My friends describe me as curious, sharp witted, hard-working, committed, caring, and witty with an endless supply of dad jokes in the bag. I feel like I can talk to anyone, but I only truly open up to people I am comfortable with, Im an extroverted introvert.
Interests – Part homebody, with the need to be social regularly. I’m a bit all over the place with my hobbies, but some of them include: music, music production, watching movies, cooking and brewing various potent potables, working out, reading, and learning new languages. I also enjoy watching anime and playing video games with friends regularly as part of my social time. Hopefully we share a few interests outside the bedroom (but I am open to dynamics that extend to outside/daily life as well).
Daily life – I am a life-learner and I am learning new things every day whether at work or in my spare time. I work in IT and enjoy the work I do as it allows me to flex my big brain to help others indirectly. I have my shit together. I will always make time for my partner and expect the same in return.
Who and what I’m looking for – First and foremost I want to be physically attracted to you. I think that goes without saying, but attraction is also somewhat subjective, so if you don’t fit the perfect society molded norm, don't think I won't be interested. Without attraction this won’t work, but if you also lack the wit and humor to knock me on my ass occasionally with a witty or bratty reply then don’t bother messaging me. I want to be turned on mentally by your personality as much as I’m turned on by your body.
My ideal partner would be independent and a free thinker. She would have her shit together and be in control of her life, but also want to relinquish control to me when the time is right. She would have goals, be communicative, empathetic, and take care of her physical and mental health. She would be honest, loyal, emotionally available, and above all kinkier than the day is long.
I’m open to the following sub-types: slaves, brats, pets and a few others
My only dealbreakers are: STIs/STDs, unwilling to develop yourself/not improving yourself
Location – I am in Montréal(I will provide a more exact location if we connect). I am not looking for an LDR
Kinks
Experience – I’ve been in the lifestyle for 3 years and welcome newcomers and experienced subs alike. I am an open book when it comes to what I have experience in and like everything else in my life I am happy to explore new kinks in the bedroom if you are interested in it.
I always do aftercare because you need time to recover and it's the right thing to do. I want to make sure we both enjoy our time together and have time afterward to discuss the aspects you enjoyed or want to improve together on. I am big on communication throughout the day and our play. I want to create a unique bond with you so our dynamic is like no one else’s and we can enjoy knowing and being in that together. I don’t expect you to be like anyone else other than yourself because that’s all I want you to be.
One of the cornerstones of any good D/s relationship is the ability to be vulnerable with each other and I would work to become your rock when you need someone to talk about the bad things that happen during your day or in your life. I will always lend an ear if you need it or take you out for ice cream if that’s what you need.
My hard limits are scat, blood, and anything illegal
My kinks include: impact play, bondage, orgasm control/denial, humiliation/degradation, praise, training/tasks, and a handful others..
I know it can be awkward or strange to reach out to someone you don’t know, but if any of this hits you in the feel goods or you resonate with anything I’ve said, reach out! I appreciate any effort you put into a genuine and original response! Bonus points for Office references!
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