Hi Reddit!

Refreshing my post from last month, with some updates. My search for a meaningful (and steamy) connection continues!

About Me:
• Korean-American (41), single, never married, no children.
• Currently living in Seoul, planning to stay long-term
• Physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, and financially stable
• Geek! Love video games (mostly RPGs), anime/manga, sci-fi/fantasy
• Love all animals (living with 2 cats)
• Ambitious working professional - I prioritize my career above all else.
• Tons of hobbies (cooking/baking, gardening, traveling, working out, etc. etc.)

Assertive, organized, and ambitious in work mode.
Extroverted, cheerful, and easy-going in play mode.
Straightforward and honest. I'm both 밀당 and 애교 free.

No mind games. The only games I'm interested in are ones that involve a controller. 🎮🎮🎮

🙆‍♂️ Who I'm looking for:
• Ideally, you're already living in, or will be relocating to Seoul in the near future.
• You're between the ages of 35-41.
• You're affectionate, both physically and verbally.
• You speak either English or Korean relatively fluently. Communication is a huge deal for me so we need to have at least one shared language between us.
• You take care of yourself and value your health.
• You live a fulfilling life with your own hobbies and interests, and won't fixate or obsess over me or anything else (i.e. rushing into dating, pressuring me into marriage, etc. etc.)

Ideally, I'm looking to start with something simple and fun, but can lead to something more committed and serious. With this said, I've been giving priority to guys with goals similar to mine. However, since I also know that circumstances can always change, and getting laid at all is better than not getting laid ever, so I am open to short-term things or more casual arrangements with the right guy. FYI though, in that case I will still continue looking for someone with similar goals.

💖 Bonus points if:
• you have big arms, or a generally large frame. I lack defense to tastefully done tattoos and piercings.
• you'll cuddle on the sofa and watch anime with me. If we end up doing other things, that's OK too.

❌ Absolute deal-breakers:
• You're married or otherwise already involved with other(s). No poly/ethical non-monogamy.
• You're looking for an online only/chat buddy, and have no intention of meeting in person.
• You want to "start online and see how things go" or "can visit Korea if there is chemistry." I have ZERO interest in online LDRs.
• If you're 24 years old, or younger. There is just zero chance, and I don't want you to waste your time.

😭 You could be out of luck if:
• There is a large age gap. I have a very difficult time feeling attraction for guys who are moderately younger or older than I am. It's not a deal-breaker, but if you're significantly younger than I am, you'll need to be pretty mature for your age, or physically look older to have a chance of getting my attention. I'm sorry, not something I can control.
• You're thinking "TLDR" because if you don't have the patience to read this post, I already know we're not going to get along. 😂
• You have a severe cat allergy. I will never choose you over the cats, sorry.

💋 NSFW Bonus Points if:
• You love foreplay, and can appreciate the whole experience and not just rush to the end.
• You are sensual, have a high sex drive, and are experienced in bed. I want to have sex for hours. Haha.
• You enjoy giving pleasure as much as receiving it, and are looking for an equal partner in bed.

💔 NSFW Deal-Breakers:
• I expect that we both get tested prior to intimacy - no exceptions.
• I have ZERO interest in kinks, BDSM, degradation, exhibitionism, orgies, etc. No judgment for people who are into these, but you're never going to convince me otherwise so please just go find people with the same interests.

Chances of me responding to your message are MUCH higher if you send me a polite message with the following:
• Your name/alias, age
• Whether you live in Seoul, are visiting or when you will be visiting (and how long you're in town)
• What kind of relationship you're looking for
• A recent photo of yourself. Here are some of mine!

I understand that it's tough to put in effort because I imagine you get ghosted often. But I read *every single* message I receive, and lose interest VERY fast if you make me dig the above information out of you or try to be coy and give cryptic responses to my questions. Help me to help you give you a chance!

I also understand that it can be unnerving to send photos to strangers on the internet, but since I've put mine out there, I don't think it's a tall order to ask for photos in return. If you're not comfortable with the idea of exchanging pics, I'm not going to pressure you, but if that's the case you should just not bother messaging me at all, because I *WILL* ask for photos and will not keep talking to you without seeing some. You can always delete them after I see them, and I promise I'm not saving them (unless you're hot and I want to look at it again later 😉)

If you've sent me a message before and I haven't responded - that is your answer. It's most likely that I'm currently talking to someone who is more aligned with what I'm looking for, or there is something in your message/circumstances that I decided to pass on.

And finally, I would prefer to be contacted by mature and polite gentlemen only. Just because I've discussed my sexual preferences openly in this post doesn't meant that I enjoy receiving raunchy messages from strangers online. I want to meet you and your personality first, before I meet your junk. Should you choose to introduce yourself to me with a dick pic first, I will in turn introduce your dick to one of the lovely moderators in this subreddit.

Good luck to everyone out there! I sincerely hope you all find what you're looking for. 🤗🤗🤗