Introduction:

Hello and welcome to this book of a post! Whether you were bored, enjoy reading, or just saw California and clicked I hope some of you make it till the end. Unlike a good book that will try to suck you in and keep you entertained I will confusingly be doing the opposite. I will be starting with more serious subjects/dealbreakers so if you are simply not interested you can move on to someone that hopefully better suits you! Before we start some basic info- 6.2, 230, white, BS degree in IT, work for the government, soon to be homeowner, animal lover, ISFJ personality let me be your guardian!

Chapter 1: Relocation

It’s best to start with this as it will turn away a lot of people ( for good reason ) so if you are not able to relocate then unless you truly are bored feel free to stop here! I understand that dropping everything in life and moving to be with someone is an incredible change and not something easily done, alas I am bound here in California now. I started on my house project about… geez its been 2-3 years I think and the construction finally started last year. The house should be done being built in a few months. Even if things get pushed back here and there by end of Q3 it will be done. I have spent a monumental amount of saved up rupee’s and plenty of gil building this thing and will not be leaving it, ever :p. My future partner would need to be willing to relocate over here. I understand the situation will be difficult and it might affect many aspects of your life, but we can talk about how things might work out and what not. As long as its something you are willing to consider then that is all that matters.

Chapter 2: Distance

I have… not been so lucky with anything involving distance in the past. Since this is the last post I will be putting up, I am going to go ahead and increase the distance back from just California to anywhere in the US. Outside the US in other countries is going to have to stay a no-go though unfortunately. The closer you are the better It will work out though as its going to be really hard for me to take a flight out of state until after the house is completely done as work plus the house keeps me crazy busy. Where are all the central California peeps at? Everyone seems to always been in north cali or south cali. I have only ever talked to… I think 3 people in the past few years that were in central cali. The closer you are the easier it will be to meet and get to know each other in person, but its not a dealbreaker this final time.

Chapter 3: Gaming

Yes, like probably 80% of the posts on reddit I am a gamer and its unfortunately something that has to be a part of my forever partner. Some people don’t care if their partners have similar hobbies to them but I would argue that it is important. Whether we play together or separate, or likely both, it doesn’t matter. Your choice of gaming whether it be PC or console, or likely both, it doesn’t matter. What you play, whether it be mainstream like Zelda, final fantasy, pokemon, animal crossing, or some hidden niche gem that I have never heard of, or something like hello kitty island adventure, it doesn’t matter. If you game because you enjoy it that’s all that matters. I won’t go into too many details here otherwise this chapter would be enormous but the Point is, you must be a gamer. We will talk about this subject more in depth in private.

Chapter 4: Intimacy

My Love language is physical touch. Intimacy is important to me, it is how I express myself and I love cuddles. Intimacy doesn’t have to be important to you, but it has to be something you enjoy, otherwise it will never work out. Clingy much? That’s ok, come on over and cling on, I welcome it. More in-depth intimacy can be talked about in private but I hope you love cuddling.

Chapter 5 Traveling

Do you want to hike across the Himalayas, explore the Egyptian deserts, or travel from country to country every year exploring the vast world? Then please do not message me lol. If you have the “travel bug” then that is wonderful for you but that is not something that I am interested in. I have no desire to be a world traveler and it seems like many people nowadays have this so called traveler spirit. Are there a few places I would love to go? Yes there are, Japan, video game and anime capital of the world being my #1. That however doesn’t mean I have this so called traveler spirit and if you do, we are not compatible. I didn’t know traveling was such a big deal to people until the past year or two but so many of my potential partners are talking about taking major trips every year and I am just like… no…. no… no… ( think family guy Consuela voice )

Chapter 6: Specifics

I don’t really have many specifics when it comes to a relationship. Things like age, ethnicity, personality, appearance, etc I am very flexible with. As long as you are not too young or too old anything - 15 should be fine. Everyone develops differently in life and age is not really a barrier at least to me for that. I don’t have any no’s in terms of ethnicity. Someone’s appearance matters very little compared to their personality for me. As we get older we realize more what we want in a partner. Someone compatible with us is what’s going to last in the long run. I am happy, I enjoy my life, and I want someone who enjoy similar things to me as that way I know we will be happy together in the future. Like to game? Check Love intimacy? Check, don’t have the travel bug? Check Able to relocate? check

Chapter 7: Connection

If you are distant, connections can be hard to maintain. I prefer calls over texting. I love to walk and talk to people. I enjoy calls and video chats. Also if we are distant I would like us to game together to keep things strong. The goal for the future obviously will be you relocating over here, and as I mentioned we can talk about specifics later.

Chapter 8: Vanilla

It’s just not some people’s favorite type of ice cream ( mine is cookie dough though ) it’s me in a nutshell. I don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. I have no children and have never been married. There isn’t any drama in my life. I have a close family and a small group of close friends. I have had successful long-term relationships of 5 years that only ended due to real world issues such as my partner moving away for schooling or due to life/career choices. I am financially stable with a high credit score. I don’t use social media unless you count reddit occasionally and discord. I am emotional available, affectionate, healthy, and have all my life ducks in a row. Basically… for better or worse I am a very simple straightforward person.

Chapter 9: Bring out the nerd

I am into many other nerdy aspects then just gaming, although gaming is the only one that would be a “necessity” in a partner. That being said the nerdier you are the better we will get along! I won’t go over massive details here but I will list some things. Anime ( and donghua ) is close second to gaming. I enjoy card games and board games as well. I am thinking about trying to set up some card/board game nights once my house is done being built. I enjoy J/K pop and rock music as well as VGM and Anison of course. I love to binge Chinese/Japanese/Korean drama/action/fantasy.

Chapter 10: Introverted homebody

Do you want to go camping, fishing, mountain climbing and rafting down rivers????? That sounds like exactly the opposite of what I want to do lol. I am a homebody! My ultimate night would be grabbing/cooking some food then cuddling up on the couch while we binge watch something or play a game together. I would very much prefer a partner who more-so enjoys staying home then going out. If however you are extroverted or someone who wants to go out all the time that I guess would depend on how much. I do love going to certain places. I enjoy the occasional concert, especially gaming ones like Zelda/Final fantasy, distant worlds was an amazing concert and I will 100% go again when it comes back to California somewhere. I love places like the zoo/aquarium, anything with animals, occasionally the museum and enjoyable gardens, and we can’t forget an amusement park every so often. If we can go somewhere and look at cute things and hold hands, that’s a good outing.

Chapter 11: Friendship

If you have been reading thus far and think well… he is not my cup of tea, or I am not his cup of tea for 1 reason or another but think we are very similar regardless, you can still send me a message. I have made friends on here that have lasted for years. Now that number is small… maybe 5 total people over the years that have stuck around, but it does still exist. I will say that the people I still talk to as friends are very compatible nerdy wise, which is probably the reason we get along so well. The main reason nothing ever worked out romantically was distance. I love to walk, and I enjoy talking to people, combine them both and you get a winning situation. If you want a friendly chat buddy that will last and you are similar but don’t want a relationship feel free to reach out anyway.

Chapter 12: Too old for this

Be honest, upfront, and picky. I feel like too many people are not like this. You want a partner right? You want a partner that likes you for you and will be with you for the long run right? Just be honest, upfront, and picky. Don’t try to change someone or yourself. Love yourself for who you are and find someone to love you for you. If something matters to you, then speak it out, tell a potential partner that it matters and if they don’t have whatever it is, find someone who does. I feel like people don’t focus on these things enough. Don’t take things to heart, everyone wants specific things ( or they should ) if everyone moved on instead of fluffing around things would be better. ( this is just my opinion of course ) The point is… lets be adults and chat about what we want. Some things can be worked around, others simply cannot, but the most important thing is being vocal and talking about it.

Chapter 13: History

There are still plenty of posts up from the past 2-3 years if you want to poke around. Most of the information is rehashed/repeated in some way or another. Most of my comments or history are in regard to video games but poke around to your liking. I understand this has been a lot to read, and if you see my previous posts its kind of similar. Some people have told me why do I put so much stuff up? I don’t really know how to answer that. I want people to know the big things right away so it can deter people and we won’t waste time. If someone took the time to read all this and find themselves similar, I guess that’s my kind of person.

Chapter 14: Moving on

It has been a journey over the past couple years searching for someone and working on my life. The goal was to find someone and develop a relationship by the time the house was done so we could enjoy a nice time together, alas I guess it wasn’t meant to be. This will be my last relationship post on here. I will be going down a different route once my house is finished in terms of finding someone. If you have seen my posts on here before and thought eh… maybe I won’t reach out, now is the final chance! You won’t know until you try, just do it.

Finale:

If you are still reading and if you are interested then send me a message or a chat. Tell me about yourself, what you are looking for in a relationship, and be sure to include your favorite game of all time and what you are currently playing, and I will get back to you. Anything 1 sentence or liner I will assume is a bot/other intentions and will not reply. Let’s be adults and talk about things upfront and we can decide if we want to proceed further or not. Just be honest/upfront and yourself. I have plenty of pics that are ready to be exchanged after an initial chat. If you profile is empty but you provide a good response I don’t mind. I don’t get the whole throwaway account stuff but it seems to be the norm now, regardless if you put effort into your response that is all that matters. If I am not your type of person then I hope you find yours! Thanks for reading.