Hello there!

This is going to be pretty long. I found that sometimes when I read someone's post and I wanted to read more, there wasn't more. So I decided to just put everything out there. If you feel like this post resonates in some way, I'd love to hear from you!

Me: I'm a single male living in the Redmond, Bellevue, Kirkland area. Patient, kind, empathetic, open-minded. Still trying to figure things out but enjoying life playing games, watching shows/movies. Loves eating out at restaurants over long deep conversations about life. Enjoys fantasy football though I've been getting into hockey lately. Plays board games.

What I'm looking for ideally: Kids, marriage, house, dogs (Shiba and Samoyed). Someone who I can trust wholeheartedly. Someone who shares the same values. Someone who puts a smile on my face whenever I think of them and me for them. Someone I can build a future with. Someone who's my best friend where we're supportive each other and bring out the best in each other. Someone who can make me laugh until my stomach hurts. Someone to have inside jokes. Someone who can be a part of a shared vision where we're old grandparents and our children bring their children to our loud house for the holidays.

Core values: A big core value of mine is saving money for my future children to have a better situation so they can better their children's future. What that means is that I'm big on not spending money. I'm ok with eating rice and chicken every day for lunch. I'm often asking 'how much is that going to cost?' It's like a weird reflex. Even though I'm financially secure, I have this kind of mentality that the money I make isn't for me but rather for my children's future and their children's future.

Someone mentioned I should let me freak flag fly. So here it is: I do consider myself to be pretty kinky. I would say probably 60/40 Dom/sub. As a Dom, I've experienced quite a bit. My kinks include but aren't limited to the following: Ddlg, secret public play, anal play, squirting, free use. As a sub, I don't have too much experience but here are my kinks: Mdlb, secret public play, anr. Physically, I'm pretty slender. I've been told I have really smooth wrists and that I have a cute squishy butt. I'm attracted to all sorts of women and have been with a range of body types. For me, it's more of a mental thing that draws me. Someone who's emotionally mature, confident and isn't afraid to be vulnerable and open with me.

Other random important things: -Finances: I prefer to share finances if we have the same core values. I think it's important to talk about finances in a relationship. I don't want to hide finances from each other nor do I want either person to feel guilty about spending money. There's a Netflix show called How to Get Rich that I'd love to watch with my partner.

-Parenting style: I want to be supportive of my children and help them to be able to communicate effectively. I mentioned before about wanting to instill in them a core value of saving money for their future children but I also want to teach them to be able to pass on that knowledge so that it effectively cycles onto future generations. Along with that, I want them to be able to trust me with anything. I want them to be able to come home whenever for any reason. There's a tiktok video from an Aussie Mortage Guy called We will always be your safety net that I recommend checking out. I also want to teach them that mistakes are a good thing. That mistakes are for growth. I want to be able to talk about emotions with my children. I didn't have those kinds of conversations growing up but it's something I want to have with my children. I want them to be disciplined but understand that disciplining them is to help them grow and not a punishment. As for the number of children, I want at least 2 but ideally more. My cousins had big families and I enjoyed the loud houses growing up. But I'm willing to have as many as my partner allows me.

-Debt: I have no debt.

-Religion: I consider myself agnostic.

-How to deal with my family: I'm close with my cousins. I am an only child but my cousins are like my siblings. I talk with them regularly.

-Childhood: My dad was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and so my mom had to take care of him often. As such, I was mostly left to myself and playing games. As such, I wasn't really disciplined much as a child but I'm working on it as an adult.

-Sexual expectations: It kind of depends on my partner but I would want them to be open-minded. Something I try to live by is try everything at least 3 times. First time could've just been a bad experience. Second time is maybe you were young and so the third time is maybe when you grow older, your tastes change.

-Partner expectations: I want my partner to be someone who I can go to for anything and for them to come to me for anything. I want us to be able to have hard conversations. I want us to be on a team together and face the world together. There's this scenario I don't remember where I got it from but I believe it was a comedy where one partner asked them 'I need you to help me bury a body, no questions asked.' and the other person disappears off screen and returns with a shovel. And I was thinking, that level of trust and commitment is something I want in my relationship. Not that I want my partner to help me bury a body but just I want that level of trust.

-Financial expectations: I want us to be financially secure. I want us to be able to own our own small house and have dogs and be able to buy the things we want without too much worry while still being able to stick to our core value.

-Family health history: My mom has pre-diabetes, high cholesterol and high blood pressure. So, I try to be conscious of what I eat. I love chips but I try to minimize how often I eat them.

-Mental health history: My dad had schizoaffective disorder and my mom had depression. I also have depression but I'm seeing a therapist and taking antidepressants.

-Bucket lists: I would love to travel to Japan, China, Korea and New Zealand. Maybe even try living in Japan for a year so I can travel around the country and eat all the foods there. I also kind of want to try skydiving at least once in my life.

-Dream home: I'm ok with a smaller home. I hear the bigger the home, the further apart the family can be.

-Career: I am working full time but I'm still trying to figure out a career.

-Education: I have a Bachelors of Arts.

-Political views: I'm liberal.

That all being said, I'm absolutely okay with just being friends. I could also use more friends. Though, I prefer people say that up front. Direct communication works best for me.

If you made it this far, tell me about something you were excited about! I like hearing people talk about whatever excites them!

Anyways, I'll stop there. Thanks for reading!