Back on Reddit again... ㅋㅋㅋ

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The subject line is actually lyrics from one of my favorite songs and it's become somewhat of my theme song this year.

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After a little over a year of trying to date in Seoul, I'm burnt out from the shallowness and strangeness I've encountered on dating apps and find myself writing this post.

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My life in Seoul so far has been quite fulfilling. I'm immersed in a great career, have wonderful friends and family nearby, and am quite content overall. The only thing I'm missing now is a gentleman who's sweet to me during the day and spicy in bed at night. 😊

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About Me:

• Korean-Amerian, just turned 40 this year. Single, never married.
• I'm physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, and financially sound. Haha. 5'5" (165cm) if that matters. * I'm an art director currently working in several different fields. I love my work and take it very seriously.
• Huge geek! Love video games (mostly RPGs, Zelda, etc.) anime/manga, sci-fi/fantasy.
• Love to cook/bake, explore new places/travel, work out (weight training, swimming), gardening, movies/TV (honestly, the list of things I don't like is probably shorter.)
• Love all animals, currently living with 2 cats. * Assertive, organized, and ambitious in work mode. * Extroverted, cheerful, and easy-going in play mode.
• Always straightforward and honest, no 밀당 or any similar manipulative crap. Since coming to Korea I've often heard that I'm a bit tomboy-ish, but I think this because I don't do 애교 and express myself very openly and directly.

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I would love to hear from you if the following apply:

• Ideally, you're currently living or will be relocating to Seoul soon. This is a deal-breaker. I have a lot of 정 and don't want to get attached to someone who doesn't intend to stay in Korea long-term. I got so many messages from people who were not even in Korea last time so I'll repeat this again: please don't contact me if you're not in Seoul. To put it another way: if you message me anyway and I find out you don't meet this condition, you've already failed and will *never* have a chance because clearly you can't follow simple instructions or respect the conditions I've set.
• You're single and unattached (no poly/ethical nonmonogamy.) I'd like to meet and really get to know one person sincerely. Looking to build something serious naturally over time. Not interested in ONS/hook-ups, or FWBs.
• You actually intend to meet me in person. No time for any more online chat buddies.
• You're affectionate, both physically and verbally. While I am averse in all 5 love languages, physical touch is the most important for me and what I believe makes the distinction between platonic friendship and romantic attraction.
• You speak either English or Korean relatively fluently. Communication is a huge deal for me so we need to have at least one common language between us.
• You're at least neutral (but preferably like) cats. I will never choose a man over my babies.

💖 Bonus points if:

• you have tattoos and/or have your ears pierced.
• you'll cuddle on the sofa and watch anime with me. If we end up having sex, that's ok too. ㅋㅋ

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I am generally not attracted to guys who are much older or younger than I am. Ideally, you're between 36-40, but I remain open-minded.

Also, if you're already tired and feeling TDLR after reading up to this point, no need to read any further - I already know it won't work out. 😂

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The NSFW Section:

I'm an extremely affectionate person, both in and out of the bedroom. My ideal lover is someone who is also not only affectionate, but sincerely enjoys pleasuring their partner as much as receiving pleasure themselves. I don't know if it's because the majority of my experience in Korea has been from dating apps, but for me, sex isn't just thoughtless animalistic rutting (there's a time and plae for that.) I see sex as communicating with our bodies and as a means of expressing things that words sometimes can't. It's about getting to know your partner, understanding what they like, and helping to fulfill an intimacy that you can't get on your own... isn't it? 🤔

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My conditions in this area include:

• I expect that we both get tested prior to becoming intimate - no exceptions. I've run into a lot of resistance when it comes to this in Korea and it's baffling. Safety first.
• I have ZERO interest in BDSM, degradation, threesomes/orgies, exhibitionism, hook-ups/ONS. I'm listing these things specifically because I've literally gotten solicitations for all of these things on Reddit.
• I don't like playing any other games unless they involve a controller. If you're the kind of guy who likes 밀당 and being smothered by 애교, I'm not the one for you. I'd like to meet an adult who's grown out of playing silly games and wants to meet a confident, independent, and sensual adult like myself.

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Chances of me responding to your message are much higher if you include a self-introduction. I'm currently burnt out from dating apps and it's highly likely I'll ignore your message if you just say "hi" or "what's up" and make me ask where you live.

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Your name, age, and whereabouts in Seoul you're located.

• What do you do, what do you like? Why did you respond to my ad? Tell me some things about yourself so we can strike up a decent conversation.
• A recent photo (within 1 year) please: here are some of mine.

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Should you choose to introduce yourself to me with a dick pic first, I will in turn introduce your dick to one of the lovely moderators in this subreddit and get you banned. Just because I can discuss sex openly doesn't mean I'm not expecting a gentleman.

While I'm ready to start something serious, I'm very easy-going and can match your pace. We can meet for coffee, or if there's something in particular that you want to do that you didn't quite want to do alone, bring me along! Let's hang out and have fun first, and let things develop naturally. If we end up just being friends, that's okay too.

Finally, as 2023 comes to an end, I with you all well and hope you find what you seek. In the meantime, I would like to end this epic post with some music that I've been enjoying lately. Take care, everyone!

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Flavour Trip - Soulful Cozy House Music Mix