This subreddit seems to be more focused towards fwb or hookup type posts rather than actual relationships. I figured however that no matter what you are posting for on reddit you are looking at a needle in a haystack situation so regardless I might as well throw a few more needles in the stack and see if I an improve those odds.

Basic info- I am 6.2 230 white, dad bodding it up in case any of those things matter to ya

Relocation- I will start with probably the biggest deal breaker for people, relocation. I will not be leaving California anytime soon and probably never. I am building a house here on a parcel of land I now own and suffice to say it’s going to take lots of time, energy, and a dumb amount of money. The house was supposed to get started being built last year but things hit issue after issue, then it pushed into 2023 and I had to re-do the plans with the architect because new year 2023 rules, then it had to go through the city inspection again.. yadda yadda I won’t go over all the details. The point is finally finally FINALLY construction will be starting. I was super happy so I figured I would throw up a post. The point is you would need to be willing to relocate in the future if things work out.

Work- I work for the government, been working around 72 hrs a week for 2-3 years now. Pretty hectic I know but building although a bit cheaper then buying means I have to have the capital up front so its way more of a stress and money load, thus the massive work spike.

Distance- honestly this changes from post to post sometimes including ldr and sometimes only california. This time around I am going to say LDR is ok inside the US. I have about a year from when the construction starts before its done. I am open to LDR this time as long as you are willing to relocate in the future. There will be a few things that I would prefer if you are LDR though, such as video calls and gaming together to keep the LDR going smooth though. We can talk about these details later.

Family- big on family, happy wholesome family, building my house on family land as well, they gave me a 2 ½ acre parcel to build on

Personality- my personality is ISFJ. Let me be your guardian in and out of games.

Age/attraction- age is just a number I am not too concerned with and my attraction is with someone’s personality and our compatibility. I don’t really have any dealbreaker things besides gaming and intimacy but I am also attracted to many other nerdy qualities. As we get older we more realize what we want, certain things go away and others take their place. I am happy, I enjoy my life, I want a partner who enjoys the same things I do, or at least some of them so I know that we will enjoy each other’s company for the long run. I could care less about someone’s height/weight/ethnicity/age/ etc but if they don’t enjoy gaming or intimacy for example yeah… It just won’t work out in the long run. I understand if physical attraction is important to you though, send some pictures in your initial reply to me and I will take that as a que its important to you and send a bunch back. If I am not your cup of tea then lets not waste time. Everyone has their own preferences just be honest in what you are looking for.

Language- my love language is physical touch. I am all about those cuddles. I very much enjoy the little things like holding hands, running my fingers through someone’s hair or down their arms. Intimacy is how I express myself and very important to me. It doesn’t have to be important to you, but it needs to be something you enjoy otherwise it probably won’t work out. Clingy touchy people to the front of the line! ( don’t worry there’s never actually line anyway)

Straight edge- I am pretty vanilla in many aspects. I don’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. I have no children, I have never been married, and there is no drama in my life. I am financially stable, high a high credit score, and no debt. I have a small group of close friends and a close family. I don’t use social media, I am not religious and not political. I might be a tad bit boring actually if you are not into anything nerdy lol. I’m just a very simple person for better or for worse.

Hobbies: I am pretty much a homebody introvert kind of nerd. Video games, anime, donghua, card games, board games, tabletop, j-pop/k-pop/ Chinese/Japanese/Korean TV fantasy/drama yadda yadda etc etc, you get it lol. I love a night in cuddled up watching something or playing a game. If the rest of my nights were spent with my partner cuddled up gaming/binge watching something I would be a happy person.

I do enjoy going out under the right circumstances though. A trip to the zoo, museum, aquarium, anywhere we can walk around holding hands and looking at cute stuff is a win. I haven’t been to a concert in awhile but the type I go to are like indoor unique ones, not the outdoor kind. For example I still remember getting literal goosebumps all over when I went to a final fantasy and a Zelda concert, would love to do something like that again, it was amazing. I enjoy walking outside very much as well.

I am open to traveling, but I am also open to just being a homebody and spending time together that way, or a mix of both. Japan would be a lovely visit if going outside the US. I have to put it here though, I have no interest in traveling the world, there are a few places I wouldn’t mind going but in general I am more homebody than traveler. Even if we mesh if your idea is to get out of the country every single year and visit another one I have no interest in that.

You: a gamer anywhere in US but the closer the better and open to relocating. Doesn’t matter what type of gaming, any and all gaming is fine, I just want to make sure my main hobby is shared with my partner. Nerdy people to the front! loves intimacy, preferably a homebody with possible interest in doing some exploring.

I won’t waste your time or mine, we can have some initial talks to see if we are compatible in the long run. Let’s be adults, we all have preferences and dealbreakers, let’s just talk about them upfront and get things out of the way. Be honest and upfront of what we want, if a relationship ends up forming from that it has a better chance to go the distance. Everyone has their own definition of what they want in their partner and what makes them happy, I have expressed mine, let’s see if I am yours.

Chat or mail is fine, send me a message telling me about yourself, what you are looking for, what you want out of a relationship and if appearance is important some pictures ill send them back, if its not important then you don’t have to right away. That being said I will want a video call eventually after we start talking to make sure you are real so don’t bother messaging me if you won’t video call after a bit, gotta weed out the fakes ya know. Anything one liner or something that looks low effort will be ignored. I know I won’t get that many replies anyway but I’m busy and really only want to look into serious inquires ( if there are any lol ) If I am not your type of main character then I wish you the best in finding yours.