Me:

Indoorsy. Polyamorous. Feminist. Sex bomb.

41 year old BBW writer, mom, Administrative Assistant by day, nerdy deviant by night.

Given no prep time, I could probably give a 10 minute talk on public records management, fatphobia, sex positivity, BDSM/kink, polyamory, the best pizza options in Bellingham, or why it's BS that millennials get a bad rap.

My favorite smells are baking bread, lilacs, and the smell of old books.

I have been to Italy but only for a weekend and I really want to go back. The other places I most want to go are Costa Rica, Australia, and Ireland.

I was married for 10 years and it went bad. I'm don't think I'll ever get married again. I have a nesting partner I've been with for 7.5 years, a soulmate I've been with for about 7, and am feeling things out with a couple others who could maybe turn into something? My heart is open and I still have room.

I am an empath and feel things deeply. This is an advantage and a challenge depending on whether you're dealing with spectacular energy exchange with a partner or a world full of Covid fear and grief or Russia invading Ukraine.

I waited my entire 20s to be in my 30s, and now that I'm in my 40s I am happier than I've ever been. I'm a writer, but also love art and crafting (currently watercolor and collage). I love hearing people's stories and seeing their passions. I will sit raptly while you nerd out about your job you love.

You:

Believe honesty > ghosting, understand my need for scheduling ahead, are vaccinated, believe womens/indigenous/BIPOC/LGBTQIA rights are human rights, and are kind. Bonus points for wit, beards, cute pets, ability to host, and enjoyment of texting between dates.

I'm not specific about age, though shared experience means a lot. I'm not entirely comfortable with folks younger than 23/24, but it's mostly about chemistry and connection. I love guys who know what they want, are emotionally present and intelligent, and have the time management skills to handle multiple relationships.

I don't have many dealbreakers, but I'm looking for someone within close physical proximity to my location - I want to be able to meet and spend time together, not generally looking for long distance or chatting only.

Us:

I crave connection and joy. I love it when you click with someone and your conversation is always interesting, even if it's about almost nothing. Where jokes and commiseration come easily, and sparks follow. That excitement you feel when you find instant comfort and familiarity. Like, love, and lust don't have to come with expectations or next-steps. Life and relationships are both what we make them, and I want both of mine to be full of joy.

Not looking for one thing in particular. I love comfortable intimacy. Friendship with sex. People whose energy I enjoy when we are together, sensually and just as humans. Looking for flexibility and positivity. I would most like to find someone close by (say Everett north?) for regular partnership.

I'm very open and emotive, I have a lot of playfulness and affection and love finding outlets for it. It is difficult that many people I meet take my open-ness as an inherent request for reciprocity or expectation of commitment. It's not that. I just love big.