Hey everyone, I’m a 22-year-old guy from Australia, and I’m in a strong, secure relationship. A few months back, my partner and I briefly talked about the idea of having a threesome, but it didn’t really go anywhere—honestly, I think she took it more as a joke than anything serious. Lately, I’ve been thinking about revisiting the conversation, but I want to approach it the right way to gauge her genuine interest or possibly spark it if she’s open to the idea.

For those of you who’ve had success with this kind of thing, how did you bring it up in a way that felt natural and not too pushy? Do you think subtly introducing things in bed like using toys or watching threesome porn together could help? Or maybe making more lighthearted jokes about it would create an opening for a deeper conversation? I’m curious to hear what’s worked for others in similar situations and any advice on making this conversation feel comfortable and exciting for both of us.