We all have kinks, and yet it can take time to get comfortable enough with someone to discuss them. I tend to be quite reserved and to take things slow, and while you can usually feel chemistry early on, just knowing that you want to fuck, doesn't mean you're going to want all of the same things in the same ways. Consent matters, but more than that, genuine enthusiasm matters, which can make me hesitant to even share my kinks, even though they're fairly vanilla, simply because I don't want someone to do something they don't want to just because they think it'll please me.

To scratch that itch, I've spent plenty of time talking dirty with strangers online, my post history makes that obvious enough. Rather than trying to sugar coat it, I will leave it up to you to look at my post history to see what my kinks are, it will be quickly apparent. (Disclaimer - I do know the difference between fantasy and reality!)

Let me tell you a few other things about myself, and if you're interested, send me a message.

I have been self employed for the past decade and WFH since the spicy flu. I am university educated, definitely nerdy, but also spent a good deal of my 20s partying. I don't use drugs often, but honestly do hope to find a partner who will take molly with me on special occasions. Reading and dancing are my two main hobbies, although I also enjoy making rap music, swimming and deep conversations about life, the universe and sex. Deep silences are also appreciated.

I am sometimes told that I come across as a very judgemental person, but I perceive myself as very open minded with friends from very diverse walks of life. I tend to attract sapiosexuals, and have a frustrating habit of finding myself in relationships where I am a 'white knight'.

I am INTP, if that means anything to you. I am virgo, although in true virgo style, I have serious doubts about astrology...

I'm physically in good condition, and expect that in a partner. I do not plan on sharing photos until we've had some time to get to know each other first - I take online safety fairly seriously. I am not a fitness model, and don't expect you to be, but I am confident in my body and it is important to me to have mutual physical attraction.

What am I looking for? Consider this an experiment, for science. This post may not get many replies, but I don't need many, just the right one. Is it possible to find 'the one' by starting with kinks and working backwards, rather than leaving it up to chance what kinks a partner will share?