Let's get coffees and go for walks in parks. Let's watch a play and discuss our opinions about it. Let's reject consumer dating culture and enjoy the tension and slow burn of a courtship that is emotionally exclusive before it's physically intimate.

Seeking someone who values honesty over etiquette or saving face. Someone quirky and with a large emotional range to complement my equanimity. Someone who is intentional and willing to be patient. Someone who appreciates beauty in many forms. Ideally someone who doesn't work 9-5 Mon-Fri, since our schedules will not play nice. Of course, someone with whom I can share a mutual physical attraction.

About me:

University educated, so that means I'm a bachelor right? It says it on the fancy paper. Started in English literature, somehow finished in pure mathematics.

Introvert who developed the ability to perform extraversion while busking as a magician as a teenager, later on as a rap battler, then as a teacher and now as a social dancer. Around good friends and family I am known for pain-inducing puns and scandalously dark humour, while around everyone else I am quiet, respectful and aloof.

Jack of all trades, master of none; I love to get people talking about what excites them so that I can add to my own understanding of the world. While I do enjoy a good debate, I prefer not to contradict people when I disagree with them - I think I can gain more from listening to a flawed opinion than I can from 'educating' someone. I correct people professionally, I have no compulsion to do it for free in social situations.

Emotionally available, seven years out from a seven year relationship. In that relationship I learned, in therapy, how to recognise when I'm being defensive, how to communicate non-judgementally about emotions and emotional needs and how to speak up about my own feelings rather than dismissing them. Since then I have had a few 1-3 month relationships, but nothing in the past year except a single date, since a male role model advised me to be more intentional and stop wasting people's time.

I am very high in trait agreeableness. I make moves, but I make them slowly. If I want to make friends with a wild animal I'm the type to sit nearby and look in a different direction, rather than to approach directly with arms outstretched. In other words, I play my cards close and create opportunities for someone to indicate they're receptive to my approach before I make my intentions explicit. I will share SFW pics in DMs, but not before chatting for a while to make sure we're both looking for the same thing. I will not ask for your number or your socials until after meeting in person. I am deliberate and considerate and, according to some women, annoyingly paranoid about making others feel rushed, unsafe or used. You're welcome to make moves too, I'm a feminist, the important thing is that we're both comfortable to assert our boundaries.

I'm tall, white, very dark brown hair and eyes, lean build, physically healthy with no history of congenital illness in my family. People tell me I dress like a bum; I just like to know that if I wanted to climb a tree, I could. Despite my highly agreeable personality, my stubborn rejection of fashion may be a clue as to the iconoclastic values I hold.

I have a penchant for making too-long posts, but I don't expect to receive essay replies, however full sentences are a must if you want to make a good impression. Please do not lead with pics. If you've read this far and you're on the fence about messaging me, this post might help you make up your mind.