Do you know the parable of the blind men and an elephant? I feel like whatever I say here is necessarily incomplete and probably misleading. I could trumpet my virtues, but why should you believe me when I say I'm a good person? I could describe my idiosyncrasies, but I'm reasonably wary of online dangers. My own conclusion is that I need to write enough that you can get a 'vibe' from the way I express myself; the style might be more informative to you than the content.

I've made other posts on this subreddit, so I will try not to repeat too much here, since you can find them in my post history. Speaking of my post history, I will also mention that I have posted on this account specifically because my post history contains explicit posts which will give you a clear insight into my sexual fantasies. I am not looking for hookups, nor am I expecting to literally live out the fantasies described, but I am looking for someone who feels some level of sexual compatibility on that basis. The tl;dr is D/s dynamics, lots of dirty talking and an emphasis on cum.

Ok, so now that I've put my most lecherous foot first... I'm also interested in nondualist metaphysics, moral philosophy#Reinterpretation_of_biblical_stories), social theory, Harry Potter and science and technology etc. I like reading, but more often listen to books. While a good tv show or movie is nice, 90% of the time I would prefer to converse, even if we're just talking smack (which I do a lot of, despite coming across like an pompous know-it-all in my writing).

I have myriad hobbies, and hesitate to enumerate them here, but I will say that I love swimming, dancing, writing, deep conversations, meaningless wordplay and spending time with people I care about. I would say that quality time and acts of service are how I like to show people that I care.

I'm a standard-issue, tall, lean, brown-haired, white guy. I'm happy to share pictures *after* spending a little time chatting and getting to know/trust each other first. Yes, I care what you look like, and I realise you will care what I look like. But please don't send a photo or ask for a photo in your first message(s). I am a very patient person and I am not trying to rush to meet up. I'm not sure I believe good things come to those who wait, but I do know that rushing into things prematurely is a recipe for hurt feelings and wasted time. If we get along and we're both interested, I'm sure it will happen. If you decide to send me a message and want to show me that you've read this post carefully, tell me what is a song you've enjoyed listening to lately.

I'm looking for a long term partner. I have done a lot of dating in the past where I have wanted sex, and I've grown tired of hurting someone I've been sleeping with - when I knew before we slept together that it wasn't going to become more. Sexual attraction and compatibility is very important, but I'd rather prolong a dry spell than lead someone on, or waste our time.

However, I don't want to make this feel too serious, and to start with I would like to spend a little time messaging, establishing rapport, taking advantage of the anonymity we have here to have some candid conversations and/or edgy arguments. I enjoy civil disagreements, tongue-in-cheek debates and am also very comfortable with being challenged on fundamental beliefs. Whether or not we are ideologically aligned has nothing to do with whether or not I can respect someone as a person.