We all want to feel that spark on multiple levels; sex, values, personality, career, lifestyle, family plans, etc. Any one of these could take a while to discuss openly, but could be a deal-breaker. So why not be more up front? Here is my attempt to tell you who I am without telling you who I am:

Sex: To start with the most salacious, I've intentionally posted on this account to allow you to look at my post history, to see my kinks. The tl;dr is an emphasis on cumplay within a D/s dynamic. Just bear in mind, I do know the difference between fantasy and reality, I prefer to chat with people rather than look at porn, and that is the context of the posts on my profile. Most fundamentally, I find good sex comes with communication, trust and mutual respect, and I generally do not enjoy hook ups or casual sex. Enjoying memorable sex with a long term partner is something which I care about.

Values: I'm agnostic atheist, and a fundamental reverence for existence is the basis for many of my beliefs. I am fairly very educated (BSc.) and broadly read; I tend to like to view news and current events within a historical and economic context and do not like polarised political debates. There is nuance everywhere you look. Like many people right now, I don't feel rich, but I do recognise that I am a member of one of the most affluent populations to ever live on Earth. Money isn't important to me, I prefer to spend time with people I care about, doing things which are intrinsically rewarding, or which make me feel like I am contributing meaningfully to something. I prefer to talk and interact rather than watch TV. Raised by second-wave feminists and not ashamed to identify as such.

Personality: I like hip hop and EDM music, arthouse movies, contemplative silences, swimming in clear water and conversations which combine the imaginative with the analytical. So I'm obviously a nerd, by most standards, typically sapiosexual women like hearing me talk, but I don't. I am an INTP and a virgo if those things mean anything to you. On the OCEAN scale, I'm high in openness, conscientiousness, and agreeableness, and low in extraversion and neuroticism. I'm low anxiety and emotionally stable. I'm also very patient, there's no rush, if we're both interested, it'll happen. My last relationship ended in early 2020 and about 9 months ago I ended things with a FWB because I want to be emotionally available for the right person. Tell me when your last relationship was, if you want to show me that you actually read this post. The right person is worth waiting for. A healthy relationship takes great communication, which is a strong point of mine. I also completely understand that mutual respect as humans comes before kink and other levels of connection.

Career: I have been self-employed for 10 years. Maybe one day my entrepreneurship journey will be flashy and cool, but really I just like to be in control of my own time. My work hours tend to be the opposite of most people - I am free during the day M-F and tend to be busy in the evenings and on weekends. I absolutely have plans to grow and expand in my career, but I have chosen a path where there is no one out there to give me a promotion, it all comes down to the efficacy of my own effort. When I look back on my life, I want to be proud of my family more than my career.

Lifestyle: I don't particularly enjoy repetitive exercise, although I have been experimenting with some weight training lately. I do enjoy being active, swimming, hiking, yardwork and dancing (like, a lot of dancing). Because my work is online, I would love someone else who had similar flexibility to be a digital nomad with me, around Australia and/or internationally as well. I drink very rarely, although I am not against recreational 420 and once-or-twice-yearly psychedelic use.

Family plans: The future is dangerous to predict, but I like to imagine having something like a 5 year 'honeymoon period' with a serious partner, followed by starting a small family with 2 or 3 children.

I am tall, healthy, fit and proud of my body. I am seeking someone else who looks after themselves and values a healthy lifestyle. I am big on online safety and am not interested in sharing pics with just anyone, but if we seem to have chemistry then it's fine. Please don't lead with a photo, use your words, help me understand why you want to talk to me.

If you read all of that and don't think I'm an awful human, please consider giving me an upvote because it's pretty brutal getting downvoted for making an M4F post when trying to be open and honest!

Enough about me, for now, how about you?