Making a woman orgasm has always hit me different than any other man I have spoken to. Physiologically, I feel satisfaction, completeness, and relaxation when I make a woman cum. For other men, pleasing a woman is generally a means to have sex with her. I love sex, but making a woman orgasm is miles more satisfying to me. My pants don't need to come off to be satisfied; I just want to push her over the edge over and over and over.

If she typically has difficulty reaching an orgasm with a partner, she is extremely interesting to be because I can add significant value.

I don't keep accurate records, but after talking to, exploring, and performing on nearly 200 women, I have experienced a breadth of feminine sexuality that most men, and even some women, don't know exists. This has given me powerful insight into how a woman's mind and body might react to me. Not to mention the amount of "hands-on" experience I've accrued.

When speaking to women prior to a session, I learn about childhood experiences which shape their sexuality, an incident from a previous partner that awoke something in them, the neglect they have had for years which needs to be resolved, the new sexual awakening they are experiencing, curiosities about experiencing something that they have heard their friends talk about, and more. I learn about what turns them on, what turns them off, how they like to be touched, treated, and spoken to, and what method of orgasm is the most satisfying to them.

The deepest level of satisfaction is making a woman orgasm who believes that she may not orgasm with me. I relate to this fear as it takes a lot for me to cum as well. I know how the body and mind need to be aligned and not distracted. What is so surprising is that me being a stranger eliminates many barriers which are usually in place from a new, or even old, committed relationship. The concept which delivers this newfound sexual freedom is:

"I am not your partner. You do not owe me anything. I'm not interested in dating you. I don't know you or your past. I am here to make you cum."

This freedom, consistently, creates a space where women can come to me and orgasm without restriction. It is lovely and meaningful and everyone involved gets a lot out of each session.

But since every woman is so different, I ask a lot of questions. Here are some of the questions I regularly ask:

-Do you cum generally once or multiple times?

-What happens to your libido after you cum?

-Do you become too sensitive to touch after cumming?

-Do you enjoy continued stimulation while cumming or do you prefer no touch?

-Do you enjoy hugging, holding, or other physical contact while cumming?

-Do you cum from clit stimulation, internal stimulation, or both?

-Do you have a preference between the two?

-Does having your asshole played with, kissed, licked or fingered appeal to you?

-How do you like to be spoken to during intimacy? Degraded? Manipulated? Respectfully? Lovingly?

-What parts of you should I NOT touch/kiss/lick?

-Do you see your breasts as sexual objects? How do you like to have them touched?

-Do you enjoy pain?

-Do you have words you would enjoy calling me (daddy, sir, etc.)?

-Do you have any specific kinks you would like to explore?

-What are your feelings on being inspected, put under scrutiny, rated, or sexually tested on?

-Do you enjoy being recorded?

-Do you enjoy being spanked, having your hair pulled, your tits gripped, or other rough behavior?

-Do you enjoy being stimulated in multiple ways at the same time?

-Can you squirt? Do you enjoy it?

After getting this information, I am able to form a specific plan in my mind for approaching their orgasm. This is just a general outline though, as the real path is discovered while performing.

The power of foreplay is undeniable. My erotic therapy sessions lean into this heavily as my hands work muscles and limbs of a naked woman. She feels my hands slide around her naked body until I start getting closer and closer to her pussy and my squeezes expose her asshole between her cheeks. Sucking on her tits though my car window, having her present her holes to me in public before I ever see her face, kissing on the neck, whispers in her ear, casual conversation in public about what I'm going to do to her body, in detail, while making eye contact, and many other situations all act as foreplay. It gives an opportunity for her to settle into what is about to happen and it demonstrates that she is in good hands.

Once the foreplay is in full swing, I transition to oral and fingers. I pay attention to her body, her voice, her breath, her hips, and any other data I can observe. I react how she changes when I move to a new spot, apply different pressure, suck instead of lick, finger, stimulate her g-spot, lick her asshole, and more. I then compound these sensations to find a combination that works best for her. I then establish consistency. I keep my momentum up and my focus on, generally, her clit, as it moves. A lesser man would lose her clit as her hips move up and down.

This series of actions, unique to her and her body, drive her to orgasm. After she cums, I ask what her body is doing. I want to know if things are sensitive, what her libido is doing, etc. These are the same questions I asked earlier, but now I get to see if that data was accurate. I want to give her agency to ask for more if she wants it. During erotic therapy, this is in the form of the instruction: "Spread your legs when you'd like more."

If you have a hard time orgasming with a partner, or you want to explore new ways to cum, reach out.