I'm a middle-aged feminist witch, a mom, a writer, and a loudmouth, especially about sex positivity, body liberation, and fat acceptance. My favorite relationships center around mutual affection, support, respect, and vulnerability. I'm an empath who loves to feel, but also gets overwhelmed by it all sometimes. I embrace silliness. I believe in the healing power of intimacy - physical and metaphysical. I bliss out in creating genuine connections and finding the magic in letting things be what they are without following some pre-destined path. I love to make art, dabble in tarot, go to the movies, and sip craft cocktails with good company.

I'm in the midst of an awakening of sorts. Historically, I've mostly dated cis men, but that isn't what I want anymore. I feel more like myself than I ever have in my life, but I am also realizing that I am not sure who I am in some ways - my sexuality and queerness are evolving and expanding, and I'm unpacking how much of myself is based on my actual feelings and how much has been based on expectations and force-fed messages. I'm most attracted to nonbinary, genderfluid, and androgynous folks recently.

In a partner, I look for emotional intelligence, sharp wit, a sense of humor, and the desire to embrace being with each other in whatever stages we're in. I love moments of togetherness, and laughing until my stomach hurts, and cuddling up in the quiet or sharing our favorite funny memes. I'm polyamorous and currently feeling pretty strongly solo-poly: I want to make connections and even fall in love, but am not looking to next or ride any kind of relationship escalator.

Dealmakers: You love texting as much as I do, to get to know each other and in between hangouts, you understand the need to plan ahead/don't expect spontaneity, you are local or plan to be in the near future.

Dealbreakers: Monogamy, being under 28 years old, fatphobia, unsolicited dick pics, any expectations for me to do all the emotional labor, pet millipedes, black licorice, strictly-chat relationships, insurmountable distance, one word intro messages.