High Level Q/A (TL;DR):

Are you a sex worker? – Please don’t message me. It’s just a waste of time for both of us.

Are you looking for online only? – I’m only looking for an in-person, physical relationship (north of Seattle).

Are you interested in a tall, charming, empathetic man that is interested in you as a person and treats you with respect and understanding in the living room … and also takes absolute control and treats you like an irresistible sex object in the bedroom? – If so, please keep reading.

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ME:

I'm a confident, caregiving Dominant looking for IRL GF or FWB in the Seattle/Everett area. I'm looking for a meaningful personal connection in addition to a playful and kinky sex life. My flavor of dominance is a blend of DD/lg and more traditional D/s dynamics, but I’m very comfortable starting mostly vanilla and working into it if you are new to BDSM.

I'm just under 6’-4”, average body/dad bod, Caucasian, and fully vaccinated. I find shy women adorable, and they bring out the teacher and protector in me. I find confident women riveting, and they bring out the bossy controller in me. I find both extremely sexy, but you don’t need to land on either end of that spectrum for me to be captivated and engaged. I believe that physical attraction is important, so I expect to exchange pics (SFW) relatively early.

Outside of the bedroom I enjoy great conversations and a playful sense of humor. I'm an ENTJ, but I'm right on the edge of an introvert and extrovert. Hanging out with people I care about is by far my favorite thing to do. I'm detail oriented and a planner (it's what I do for a living). I can be a total nerd (making tools with Excel can be a blast!) but understanding people is my passion. I'm very (VERY!) into good manners, safety, and I have an old-school sense of chivalry. I will open doors for you. I will stand between you and traffic when we’re walking. I avoid lies, even little ones. I love to give sincere compliments, and if you get a compliment from me it will be sincere. I tend to read sci-fi, fantasy and business books. I like to draw, but I'm not always great at it.

In the bedroom, I will exercise high levels of physical control while intimate. I believe that sex is way, way more than just penetrative intercourse and I enjoy the other aspects as much or more. I don’t sprint to the orgasm (for either of us) and want to tease and play our way to heightened levels of pleasure. I enjoy bondage, but I will most often engage in manual restraint with my hands and body. I love a smaller partner that I can easily pick up and move around (under 140 lbs is preferred, but it’s not the most important thing). I am very visual and want to see my partner dressed in sexy clothing often. I enjoy power exchange, bondage, light degradation, and light to moderate impact play. I love dirty talk, but you don’t have to be good at it - I will tell you exactly what to say. Ageplay and CNC can be a lot of fun, but not required.

I prefer a generally obedient partner, but I like being challenged from time to time. I'm a caregiver and a protector through-and-through, but I also like giving funishments to ‘correct’ playful disobedience.

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YOU:

A woman looking for a caring, fun and erotic relationship with a thoughtful and assertive man who takes control in the bedroom. You should enjoy long conversations about a wide range of topics and life in general. You should adore being touched, kissed, cuddled, looked at and having your hair played with. You should enjoy both rough and vanilla sex, wearing skimpy outfits and a bit of roleplay (preferably taboo).

I'm generally looking for something longer term, but lets get to know each other and see where things go. I'm divorced and have split custody of my son, so I am only available every-other week/weekend for time together. I’m open to any level of experience with kink - if you are new to it we can start (mostly) vanilla and introduce the aspects you are most comfortable with/interested in first.

Women only. BBW and Trans will not be a good match. No sex workers.

I prefer to host. North Mill Creek/South Everett. I am flexible with your location if you are prepared to travel to me.