About me

I’m a 47-year-old man, 5'11", 180 lbs, with a full head of hair and no facial hair. I live on the Seattle Eastside and am often described by friends and people I’ve met on Reddit as approachable, good-looking, and confident. I’ve been fortunate to travel extensively, which has given me a deep appreciation for different perspectives. I’m also an avid reader—my last read, Thinking Fast and Slow, was an eye-opener.

Career and personal values

In my career, I’ve achieved significant success, love what I do. work doesn't feel like work. It's something I look forward to every day. One of my values is strength and courage. Be it physical, mental or spiritual. I work out a lot, but not a gym rat. I am not religious but believe in higher power. I don't impose my values on others. I believe in presenting the best version of myself as a way of honoring the person I’m with. And by this I mean authentic me.

Life experience and balance

I’ve been married for over 20 years and have kids. I’ve had an AP in the past and have moved past the guilt phase. At this stage in life, I’m comfortable with who I am and the choices I’ve made. I’ve learned to balance family, career, and personal relationships. For me, love isn’t a zero-sum game—it grows when shared.

What I’m looking for

I’m here for something real. I’m seeking a genuine connection with someone who values depth and authenticity as much as I do. Emotional connection comes first for me—I’m not chasing something casual or fleeting. True intimacy, in my view, grows from trust, friendship, and a strong bond. Think complete each others sentences. When the emotional foundation is solid, everything else becomes more fulfilling.

My commitment

I know how it feels to be overlooked or undervalued, and I’m committed to being present and attentive. If I can’t be there for you, I’ll communicate openly and honestly. I believe in showing up—whether it’s to listen, share, or simply be there for each other.

What I offer and expect

I’m looking for one AP and expect the same in return. Ideally, you’re closer to my age, within 2 hours of Seattle, and married or in a relationship. I have no racial preferences but prefer someone who is fit and confident in their own skin. I enjoy deep, intellectually stimulating conversations across a variety of topics, with a touch of sarcasm. Emotional availability—whether we’re together in person or apart—is essential. Discretion and respect are non-negotiable. I’m not looking to disrupt lives, and I expect the same from you.

No tolerance for

Don’t know what you want and why. Drama, Games, Guilt, Fakes/flakes, Wasting time, ghosting, BS.

Open to questions

Feel free to ask me anything!