Q: What are you looking for? Why cheat?

A: I’m a 45-year-old dad with a fulfilling life, ok marriage, and great career. But there’s a part of me craving a deeper emotional and intellectual connection I haven't found yet. I’ve been open with my partner about this, and rather than letting those gaps create distance, I’m choosing to explore them thoughtfully.

Q: Why not just leave your marriage?

A: My marriage is important to me, and I love my wife, not just physically. This isn’t about dissatisfaction; it’s about seeking something else that adds to my life, not replaces it. Sometimes, even in great relationships, some emotional and intellectual needs go unmet. I’m exploring this carefully, without rushing into anything that could hurt what I already value.

Q: Have you had an affair before?

A: Yes. I’ve learned how important it is to balance everything—respecting my partner’s needs while nurturing a connection with someone else. Discretion and clear boundaries are key, and I’m careful not to disrupt my home life. An affair, for me, is about emotional intimacy and understanding, not just physical attraction.

Q: Are you here for just sex?

A: No, that’s not what I’m after. Physical connection can come later, but for me, it starts with building a real emotional and intellectual bond. I want someone I can talk to, share ideas with, and truly connect with first.

Q: What are you looking for in a partner?

A: I’m looking for an emotionally intelligent woman who values honesty, connection, and discretion. Someone who understands the complexities of life and enjoys deep conversations. No pressure, just a space to connect and explore something meaningful together.

Q: Tell me more about yourself.

A: I’m active and curious, whether I’m biking, playing pickleball, or getting lost in a good book. I’m 5’10”, 175 lbs, with salt-and-pepper hair, and people often say I look younger than my age. I’m a sci-fi fan, board game enthusiast, and love discussing everything from philosophy to pop culture. Potential APs have described me as thoughtful, kind, and friendly.

Q: What do you hope to create through this connection?

A: I want to create a space where we can be real, honest, and vulnerable with each other. Trust, respect, and emotional connection are the foundations. If you’re looking for that too, let’s see where it goes—without rushing into anything physical right away.

Q: Who are you hoping will reach out to you?

A: If any of this resonates with you—if you’re looking for a deeper connection, a place to explore emotions and ideas—let’s start a conversation. No pressure, just a mutual exploration of something meaningful.