To start, please note: I am not interested in sex-only connections and will not reply to messages seeking this.

Hi all – I am looking to meet people with a potential for long-term partnership. Please be between the ages of 30 and 50, local to the Seattle area/Snohomish county, or in Denmark, Northern Germany, or Southern Sweden, and interested in building a friendship-based relationship with the possibility for something romantic and sexual to develop.

I am very nerdy but even more social, and I am looking for someone who does not get exhausted hanging out with close friends. I would like a partner who enjoys spending both quality and quantity time together. Someone who wants to deeply know and understand their partner and who is interested in sharing their life with me and sharing mine. Please both ask questions and volunteer information without being asked.

I’m neurodivergent, I am unconventional, and value direct communication. I cannot read minds, nor will I expect you to read mine, but this means that it’s important to be able to talk about difficult topics and to be honest about your thoughts and feelings. I’m not interested in what “most people” think should be happening in our relationship, I’m interested in what works for us.

I'm a nerd who's into computers and video games and board games, but I don’t generally enjoy hierarchy or competition (this means most sports are very boring to me). I love reading and watching tv, particularly dystopians and post-apocalyptic stuff. I'm very into Denmark and Germany, and Danish and German currently.

I'm very casually creative and artistic. I enjoy good banter and have a somewhat sarcastic sense of humor and would love the same in a partner, though I don’t enjoy humor that punches downwards. I value altruism, empathy, curiosity, equity, and authenticity. I enjoy talking and doing what I can to address things like racism, sexism, capitalism, etc., and would like a partner with the same core values.

I am not looking for a complete interest match or a relationship to be everything to me and would like you to be the same. I have my own interests and passions, and you should have yours. I love learning about other people’s interests and sharing mine.

I work hard to please my partner and would like a partner who does the same. When I find the a good match, I want to have great, connected, fun, creative, and frequent sex with someone who is genuinely interested in me as a person and who is interested in my pleasure both in and out of the bedroom. I am completely disinterested in casual sex without friendship.

I have brown/grey hair, grey eyes, and am very fun loving. I’m fat but walk regularly and am confident in my own skin. I am most attracted to people who are unique, nerdy, and vulnerable. I am attracted to unique physical features and bodies, and a wide variety of people. I’m somewhat turned off by conventionality in folks, but this is somewhat idiosyncratic.

If you are interested in chatting, please reply with your age, gender, and location as well as a bit about you. I will respond to all people who meet at least the following basic criteria in my opening paragraph and who make a genuine effort to connect with me. Maybe tell me why you think we’re a good match or why you replied.