Have you ever thought that dating is fun and cool, but the gradual descent into partnership is not for you? Have you ever felt frustrated with a casual hookup arrangement, thinking “the sex is good, but dang, this person and I don’t have much in common?” Have you ever wanted to value a connection but know that eventually living with a monogamous romantic partner just really isn’t your thing? Would you like to care about somebody you sleep with without feeling like that care is your life’s priority?

Hey, me too.

I’m seeking a reliable and direct man who wants to have fun, do activities, engage in thoughtful conversation, and have lots of sex. I want to care about you and enjoy your company. I want you to be a part of my life. But I’m not looking to become a melded, unified couple. Let’s keep obligation and the existential distress of the future out of this.

As far as the sex part goes, I’m bisexual and kink-friendly. I really enjoy receiving anal penetration, giving head, and have something of a shame kink, too. Hard no’s for me are scat play, impact play, and blood. I’m a switch, but I have an ongoing arrangement with someone I top, so I’m mostly looking to bottom though I can be flexible. Hands down the most important part of this for me will be frequency. I have a very high sex drive and basically always want to bone. Meeting up once a week for lots of sex would be ideal for me. I work Saturdays and Sundays, so if you have freedom on a weekday, that would be ideal.

Some more info about me: I’m vaguely athletic, butch-to-transmasculine, 5’9” and dress like I own a roadside tourist attraction (I don’t). I’ve never owned a TV and need someone to make fun of me for being an over-read snob. I love cooking, critical analysis, and learning the names of plants and animals.

Below are some absolutely-nots I have. If any of these sound like you, good luck, but you’re not for me.

If you struggle with reciprocity, either in and out of the bedroom, absolutely not. (Struggling to stand up for yourself and getting your own needs met counts, it’s not cute.)

If you have an existing sexual/romantic connection that doesn’t know you’re looking for other connections, absolutely not.

If you’re hetero, absolutely not.

If you expect femininity from your partners, absolutely not.

If you have several other connections and struggle to schedule time for the people you’re already fucking, absolutely not.

If a big part of your personality is not giving a fuck, absolutely not.

Finally, don’t hit me with “no expectations.” Expectations exist. Let’s pay attention to them, talk about them, and be on the same page about them.