Guys reading this: you're probably not my type. I'll describe below. Please don't message just because you're horny and have a penis. Women: you have my sympathies with all the low effort DMs.

Hey folks! I'm a recently out of the closet bi/pan and poly guy living in Bellevue. I'm recently coming out of a LTR because we couldn't find a way to make poly work for us, but now I'm eager to start that life properly.

I'm a nerdy software dev like so many around here, but I got my degree in philosophy and am a drummer for a fledgling metal band (no we don't have any recordings yet 😭). I enjoy day hikes in scenic locations and maybe making out in the trees if we can be sneaky. I've never gone backpacking, but I could be enticed? I'd love to meet somebody to go to see more rock/metal shows, too.

I'm neurodiverse (ADHD/autism), so be prepared for weird conversations and humor. I tend to get really deeply invested in niche stuff and want to be with someone who can vibe with that, and I want to try to return the favor getting really invested in something you enjoy.

I'm looking for long term connections, preferably, somebody for whom I don't feel like I have to translate myself. I don't have to be your boyfriend if that doesn't work for us, but I'm not really interested in hookups (except maybe alongside a long term partner?).

Physically I'm just shy of 6', HWP/almost athletic dad bod, fashionable, attractive, average length if that matters to you. Sexually I'm not big into kink but could be introduced, but group play of any variety is good by me, and I'm very giving orally. Plus, drummers are good with their hands 😂

For women, I'm pretty flexible if you take care of your body and are similarly HWP. I'm not expecting you to be an athlete or supermodel, that's too much effort haha. It's just important to me that we both take care of ourselves.

Men, PLEASE READ. I'm only interested in more effeminate or stylish guys, perhaps even a bit on the twink side. Think Link from Zelda but a normal sized adult.

Kids are not a deterrent though I have none. Presently can't host as my ex and I are rooming temporarily, but that will change eventually.

Please use chat! Send a photo if you're comfortable, or we can chat a bit first. I'd love to meet up for coffee.