Hey, you. My wife and I are opening our marriage, and I want to see what's out there for a casual relationship. That means friendship and possibly sex, but for now the romance is off the table (down the road we may be poly, but we're not there, so don't count on it going in). I've just come out as bi/pan this year and am open to all genders, but I'm very picky about men/masc.

About me: white, 6', HWP, verging on athletic, but I have a little more work to do. Fashionable. Not afraid of hygiene. Quite a bit of a nerd, gamer, stereotypical Seattle career of software dev, etc, but I'm also a metal drummer and got my degree in philosophy, so I'm not gonna bore you to death. I'm also down for live music, especially rock/metal or electronic. I suck at dancing, but I try. I also am starting to ski a bit! As weather warms, day hiking is fantastic (as is getting frisky in the woods 👀). I'm clean and can prove it, would expect the same. 420 and psychedelic friendly (only 420 for me), but no hard drugs. A very average 6" downtown, enthusiastic about giving oral or even rimming if you clean up. Drummers are great with their hands, too...

About you: being able to carry on a conversation is the most important, sexiest thing you can do. You're confident and attractive in your own way. You have your own career, hobbies, and interests and aren't looking to fill your life with me alone. You're comfortable not being my primary, though I'll 100% treat you with respect. It's important that you're liberal or leftist so I know we share values. No conservatives or "independents".

If you're a woman/femme: I am looking to be physically attracted to you (and vice versa), but if you're interesting and take care of your body reasonably/HWP, I'm probably into you. You don't need to be a model or go to the gym all the time. Your personality is way more important.

If you're a man/masc: my attraction profile is almost exclusively what I would call highly groomed, maybe what might have been called metro 20 years ago. You know how to look good, perhaps classy in a gay way lol. You're not afraid of your emotions and can talk about how you feel. Know that if we hit it off, you'll be my first guy, so I may be nervous or not know what to do exactly, but I'm excited.

We can chat a bit, and I can share photos to verify. If we want to meet, we'll meet somewhere public first, low stakes, like chatting over coffee or a beer.