Hello reddit! This is not your average r4r post, I will warn you, if you hate long texts or reading, you may want to go away now. That said, If you clicked on this it means you have some sort of interest in one way or another and you should at least say hello. I enjoy conversation about this topic even if you are not who I am looking for.

Oh but first, just a heads up, I have nothing against cis men but this post is NOT for cis men. I repeat this post is NOT for cis men. Cis meaning, If you are a person who was born as male and you identify as a male, please, do NOT message me. I have had message after message of not nice things from a lot of you and at this time I am not looking to talk to anymore cis men. Maybe in the future but I need a break. If you are NOT a cis male, please continue and read on…

I shall start with an introduction of myself so you get a small idea of who I am. I’m twenty eight years old (bleh). As a heads up I am not cis. I identify as Non-binary, meaning I do not identify as a man or a woman. Gender fluid would be a better term for it as I feel like I go back and forth a lot feeling masculine some days and feminine others. My pronouns are they/them but I am also fine with she/her if you wish. I am living in the northern part of Seattle, near Northgate. I am dating the love of my life and we are both in an open poly relationship. We are looking to date and explore solo for now so they will NOT be involved. You are free to say hello to them as I am sure thy will want to meet you at least but I do not believe they are looking for anything at this moment. They are not looking to be my dom which is why I am posting on here. I enjoy living a fairly geeky life. I enjoy all the nerdy subjects from anime to technology. That said I am an active geek and enjoy being with nature in a hike as much as diving into a new game. I also enjoy getting into deep conversations about just about everything. Love topics about philosophy, fantasy, kinks, science, LGBTQIA, gender studies, communications, hand drawn animation, statistics, sexology, poetry, norse religion, psychology and so much more…If you can’t tell I lean left politically. I am also fully vaccinated as well (three shots) and plan in getting the new booster once I can. Shyish in person but very outgoing online. I am also a Leo and an extravert, ha.

Since as long as I can remember I have thoroughly enjoyed doing things for others. That said in my youth it became too much. The smiles, the laughs, the thank you, good job, pats on the back and just being able to brighten someones day is what I craved. Being able to share positivity or create it only enable to benefit someone else. Never thinking about me. Over time this grew into a problem of ONLY putting others first, which lead to a depression I received counseling for. After two years of counseling I finally saw value in myself. More then ever before. I saw immense self worth that, for some reason, was hidden from my sight before. I found my value and even now I am confident in it. This turned into an appreciation of submission and dominance. I learned how to and became a Dom for a local sex dungeon in Colorado. Funny enough, I only had sex with maybe two people but most of the time the kinks people had didn’t require me taking off my pants at all. I was a pro dom for about two and a half years. After a long time of practicing and learning, I started feeling like being just a dom wasn’t my thing and it grew into looking into submission with the intent of me being on that side of things. Eventually I identified as a switch, like I do now. However, I want to explore being submissive more.

When I would imagine it I felt really happy. Anytime I would envision myself sitting under someone who counted on me to please them I got more and more into it. Sometimes it wasn’t sexual at all, I just felt really happy about it. I started reading books about submission, teaching classes at the dungeon and l hung out with more submissive/doms who taught me a lot on the submissive side. I never had sex with any of my teachers or mentors and wanted a relationship of my own. At the time my ex wasn’t really into being a dom and so we both agreed that I would seek that out elsewhere. I went on a few dates, some even really hopeful but nothing solid for one reason or another. So at the time I put that idea to bed and stoped being a dom and sub all together with the local dungeon. Life went on and long story short I am here in Seattle now. I still have not explored that aspect and I am hoping to now.

I share that little story to shed some insight, and or background, into why I like serving and pleasing so much. I promise to respect any boundaries you may have, put safety first above all and in return I will be able to give you back something truly unique. I can go into detail on that more but this post is already a mouthful.

If we do click well after talking online and meeting at a public spot in person, I can host and can travel to you so long as you are at most 30 miles away or less. Hosting would be a bigger task mostly because we have a small place with nosey neighbors. I can meet up once or twice a week if planned out a head or once on a weekend. As I said earlier in my post I am a switch but only looking to explore submission for now. I get tested regularly for STDs and HIV. I have a printed copy to share with you that is recent. I expect you also to have a recent test as well even if we have safe sex or no sex at all.

Talk to you soon!