Me...I am 41M married with kids, the classic story here perhaps.

My marriage has not been entirely sexless, but relatively unfulfilling and infrequent. She enjoys it when we do have sex, but doesn't crave it like I do. I focus on her and she doesn't much focus on me. Enter pregnancies, young children, life....and her desire takes a nose dive. I love her and I love our family, but years of hoping for change, talking about it gently, and trying different things haven't done much.

I sometimes feel when it comes to sex that I don’t know what a fulfilling sex life feels like. We had kids and the physical intimacy was more difficult. We were more tired and that means her drive isn't there. I try to be sympathetic and helpful, but sometimes I slip into feelings of hurt or allow myself to think it must be that she doesn't feel attracted to me.

Lately (last few years) the desire for a friend who understands has been very real. I sometimes daydream about meeting a women like me whose needs aren't being met and giving to each other what we can't have in our own marriages. I’ve finally decided that’s what I need and want to do.

I’d appreciate the chance to chat and get to know each other, but also not going to text for 3 weeks and never meet. Please be at least open to meeting soon for both our benefit.

Thank you. 🙏