Hey! I'm Benji, 22, transmasculine (he/they pronouns), post top surgery and post hysterectomy (however penetration is a very hard limit for me). I am masc in appearance, I am very hairy and have a beard. Please do not reach out to me if you're not okay with that. I will not shave for anyone.
PLEASE let me know your age, gender, kinks and limits when you reach out. Queers and people who can hold in depth conversations to the front. I'm tired of carrying conversations.
I'm not looking to meet up right away, but soon (within the next few days hopefully)! Feel free to reach out to me again if I haven't replied, I've been slowly going through my list and vetting people! And I'm forgetful. I will not respond to low effort or rude messages.
Above all, I'm looking to give head. I have a major oral fixation. I prefer sucking cock, but will just as enthusiastically eat someone out. I am not looking to receive head. I am open to receiving pleasure, but it's something we'd need to have a conversation about first.
Long term, I'm looking for an emotionally mature and safe dom to help introduce me to and guide me through kink. I am enthusiastic and eager, and into a lot, but I also have a lot to learn and need to go slow. Understanding boundaries is vital. Safe, honest communication is vital. Emotional maturity is vital. (If you describe to me what emotional maturity looks like to you in your message, we will most likely hit it off)
My age range preference is 21-35, but that's a soft limit. Especially if I'm just going to give you head and then move on with our lives.
I can't host, but I can help pay for a hotel. I am not interested in carplay at this time. I am not comfortable going to your place without chatting quite a bit and establishing a pretty solid foundation of trust first. I will not send pics right away, and I will not meet up before exchanging pics. Feeling safe is the most important thing to me. I will not meet up with anyone who doesn't communicate thoughtfully.
KINKS/INTERESTS (* some of these I will not participate in until I feel very safe and secure with my partner)
- Major oral fixation (I am especially into rough oral, I really want to train for getting throatfucked. I also enjoy eating out and eating ass)
- Messiness (spit, sweat, cum, maybe piss*, maybe puke*)
- Moans (Honestly all sex noises. I am a major audiophile)
- Petplay*
- Marking (scratches, hickies)
- Praise and degrading/humiliating praise
- Impact play (spanking, slapping, especially on my ass)
- Kissing and making out, lips
- Grinding and humping
- Choking*
- Restraints, ropes, collars and leashes*
- Playing with hair and hair pulling
- Caressing/petting/rubbing/groping
- Group sex*
- D/S dynamics*
- Bulges
- Clothed sex/undressing each other
- Breathplay*
- CNC*
- Body worship
- Underwater sex*
- Toys
LIMITS
- Penetration of any kind. I have vaginismus and I am not prepared for anal. This includes fingering and toys.
- No/poor aftercare. Adequate aftercare is essential to me.
- Fisting
- Gaping
- Feminization/misgendering
- Just straight up humiliation/degradation
- Heavy pain
- Bottoming for feet. I'm not into feet per se, but wouldn't mind sucking on someone's toes and licking their feet, as long as they're clean. However I do not want feet on/in me.
- Scat
- DDLG, ageplay
- Diapers
- Sounding
- Impregnation/pregnancy
- My belly button and the area immediately surrounding it. I know it's weird, but I've had a phobia of belly buttons ever since I can remember, and am not okay with it or my stomach being touched. I will also not touch anyone else's belly button.
Outside of these I consider myself to be sexually adventurous and willing to try almost anything at least once. Communication is key!
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