[Posting on here because r/r4rmelbourne won't approve my post until my account is a week old.]

Hello there,

Posting this from a throwaway account since I don't want my small circle of IRL friends to see this on my normal one and stir anything.

I'm a 31-year-old guy living with an illness that has a 90% chance of claiming my life within the next 2-3 years. It's heartbreaking, it fucking sucks, it's painful, I have to endure every single day but I'm determined to keep going. At this stage, I'm seeking women around my age range for casual encounters, as well as both men and women for friendly memorable experiences. I work a desk job and plan to continue working as long as I can. I'm adamant that no one ever has to pay on my behalf for anything. I can and I enjoy driving.

Right now, I appear and function normally, despite my condition. I do require blood work and injections (my medicine) from time to time, which can sometimes leave me low on energy. However, I'm committed to making the most of life and living in the present. I understand that my health may decline over time, but I'm in a good condition for now. I'd prefer not to discuss the details of my illness right away, but further down the track sure.

I usually advise my friends not to mention what they're not looking for when writing their profiles, but my circumstances are a bit unique. So, here's what I'm NOT looking for:

What I'm not looking for:

• Time-wasters. Please don't message me if you're just bored and trying to fill time.
• Relationships. This should be clear, but I'm setting this boundary for everyone's well-being.
• "Fixers." I've encountered you before, and nothing good comes from meeting.

I am looking for:

• People who respect boundaries.
• I've moved back home so you may run into my family (mum, dad, older brother). They're chill people and are so so supportive. You would need to be comfortable running into them.
• Open-minded individuals who are up for trying new things. I'm very much a "try anything once" person, and I'd like you to be comfortable with the possibility of stepping out of your comfort zone.
• Respect. I don't want to make my illness the focal point of our day to day, nor do I want to be treated as if I'm fragile. I want to experience life to the fullest.
• You must love ice cream and fries. They're my go-to comfort food when I'm feeling down.
• A shoulder to cry on.
• If you're an aspiring writer seeking inspiration for a character, feel free to tag along and observe I guess.
• Most importantly. You need to have the personality that values making commitments, If you can't make it to something then I would rather know you can't than you scrambling and telling lies. Please just tell me. I promise I won't hate you, I won't be disappointed, I'll respect the courage it takes to tell me and I'll use the time given to make other plans.

What I want to explore:

• While I understand the importance of establishing safe boundaries, I also crave the warmth of a cuddle buddy - someone to hold and be held by, even just for a little while.
• I want to go out on dates to nice places, to festivals, to movies, to rooftop bars.
• I want to play DND, I've never gotten the chance to properly play it before. I've been involved in one session which was a horror story and because of that I don't like the idea of jumping in directly with strangers who I may not know well.
• I'm interested in exploring the world of BDSM, and would appreciate someone who shares that curiosity or has experience in the scene. I don't know how I really identify but I enjoy the B aspect of it a lot.
• Maybe a threesome.
• Comedy, the festival is coming up!
• I want to go to a pro wrestling show. I enjoyed it as a kid and I play games a lot but when I tell people I usually hear "Why?" and that can pull me down. WWE and AEW are fun! It would be so much fun to have online lobbies with people I can talk trash with and maybe I can make a once in a lifetime dark joke about you burying me on the card.
• Getting tattoos. I haven't gotten any and I want to get silly stuff for the fun of it.
• I'd like to do karaoke.
• Go to Luna park.
• Skateboarding.
• Go to theatre shows. I don't know how to start.
• I want to try weed and edibles.
• I'd really like someone who can help me color my hair weird shades.
• Any really dumb ideas.
• I'm really trying not to make this into a bucket list, I was sheltered when I was younger and I missed out on a lot.

What I'm offering:

• An honest and straight to the point friend.
• An activity partner who has little fear and has a try everything once attitude.
• Hugs, lots of hugs.
• A shoulder to cry on.
• If we hang around long enough, you can blame your parking and speeding tickets on me. I try to be funny where I can.

Appearance:

• 6 foot. I mean tall, not that I have 6 feet.
• Average/thin build. Not muscular.
• Caucasian background.

I realize that this probably makes me sound like a whiny little shit. Please understand that is the furthest from who I am as a person, right now I have the energy to be confident and assertive and I want to make sure that I get what I need out there.

Again and I can't believe I have to say it but I really need to emphasize that I am not seeking a relationship. This is purely about creating meaningful connections and experiences, free from long-term attachments.

If you're open to a no-strings-attached adventure with someone facing a unique life situation and understand the boundaries I've set, please feel free to reach out. If you value time I'd really like a nice message rather than "how are you" or "hey" which will probably not be replied to.

With 8760 hours in a year and taking three maybe four hours to write this, I'm determined to make each one count. Let's create a lot of hopefully unforgettable memories together.