Sorry for the text dump, but setting the right expectations is crucial. Please read this beforehand so that we don't have to shut you down straight out the gate or waste anybody's time:

We are a white American couple in our late 30s living in Japan. We are both friendly, educated, approachable, and non-judgemental. Above all we want to laugh and have a good time.

We haven't engaged in this lifestyle in a while, but we're considering looking again into seeing what options are out there. We tried making a post some time ago and got some promising hits, but nothing that turned out.

We are looking for guy to join us and play with our female half. The male half will join as well, depending on comfort level and how things play out--more in a sec. Importantly, we are looking for the following:

• A guy is confident (but not cocky! Don't take yourself too seriously). Experience is a definite plus. Or at the very least, someone willing to put themselves out there and "take the reigns", so to speak, in the right situation.
• Someone who is funny and nice to talk to--this is probably the most important. We want to spend time with someone we get along with well. If you can make her laugh then you're more than halfway there.
• Be curious and interested. Our favorite thing to do is talk and share and learn new things.

I understand this is a lot, but all this is much more important than a six pack or how many inches you are. We want to connect and have fun with a person; we're not really looking for what a lot of couples seek from a third in the cuckold/hotwife scene.

On that note--again, the main thing we're looking for is for someone to play with her while he watches. As the night went on her may join for MFM activities as well. So bi-sexuality is a plus--but for the right guy not necessary. And of course always within everyone's comfort.

To be upfront, we're not going to look to bang the first guy that messages us, or even in the first week. We need time to suss out chemistry and attraction, and we're also both busy adults. One thing to keep in mind is that she is partially demisexual, so unless there's some kind of intellectual or emotional connection there, nothing is likely to happen no matter how hot or in shape you are.

Some things we're interested in:

• Games
• Cooking
• Karaoke (!!!)
• Music and art

Honestly, though, we enjoy being surprised and honestly most passions are exciting and interesting to learn about.

The male half is bi, bottom leaning, but open to various degrees of interaction (prefers giving oral to men and loves to clean up). The female is also bi, but at the moment we are only considering men.

Also, please don't expect Ken and Barbie (though the female half is actually very sexy). Similarly, we aren't demanding perfect looks (though of course that helps!). To paint in broad strokes because we understand this is important, she is a blonde/brunette, athletic build with cushion in the right places, very much conventionally pretty and never disappointing. He is way out of his league in this relationship, think a Boris Johnson type (but hopefully much easier to get along with).

If you have any questions or want to run anything by us feel free. For something like this clear expectations and communication is key. Be honest and upfront (and respectful!) And we'll do the same.

TLDR: Looking for a male to join with her and with him as well depending on comfort/interest. Be confident! Be sane! Be funny! Good looks help but good conversation is essential.