Version 1.7, April 2023 see comments for changelog... Please post your questions, comments, suggestions, clarifications in comments. Post some of your experiences at these venues too! Let's make this fun!

I intend to repost this every few weeks or maybe the mods can sticky it or we can start a wiki instead. I just figured it's time to make sure all the common questions are answered.

What's available

Sex and swingers clubs - There's two of these. Colette and Eden. Colette is older, more white collar, and in Dallas. Eden is in Euless (Out towards Fort Worth) and more blue collar, younger and more diverse and rowdier. Eden also has a BDSM dungeon next door, but it's a different fee and a different crowd. Single females are charged the lowest covers, couples are in the middle and single males on the nights allowed are charged a LOT. (This is true across all the things.) Both of them have specialized theme nights, check their calendars.

BDSM Dungeons - Infliction Hall is attached to Eden, but has a separate entrance fee. They allow sex on premises but not in social areas. DFW Dungeon is in Dallas. DFW Dungeon only allows sex on premises on some nights. Infliction Hall and DFW Dungeon do not apparently restrict single males very much- but I suspect if you're not into bondage this is a bad idea for single males. Don't treat these places like hookup spots.

Adult stores - There's ton of adult stores that sell sex toys, lingerie, and other sex stuff and many of them are very women friendly. A few also sell porn DVDs, Blu-Ray, magazines, etc. And a few of those have the "arcades" which are basically booths with a TV that shows porn you can jerk off in. Some of those allow couples to go back there but it has mostly historically been a gay hookup. The clean ones women actually like in no particular order: Best selection, helpful staff, brightly lit, lots of single women and couples shopping: The Spot, Adam and Eve, Hustler Hollywood, Velvet Box. These are all totally fine for single women and honestly, run into a friend? Just say you're bachelorette party or lingerie shopping. Midrange cheaper chains with lots of locations: Sarah's Secret, Condom Sense. Standalone non-chain: Condom Sensation, After Hours Video, Tapelenders (Gay). Older and kinda creepy, dirty, sells porn, maybe has jerkoff booths: New Fine Arts, Paris Adult Video, Odyssey Video, Amazing Video Superstore. You'll note these are all off I-35 which means they cater to a lot of truckers and industrial blue collar folks. With all the attendant problems those tend to bring. That said, some have large selections and decent prices and many of them are 24 hour. And I know some of y'all prefer it dirty! Stripper clothing and supplies: Electrique Boutique, Just For Play Sex Toy Home sales are available too if you want to get a group of girlfriends or a bachelorette party together and do some toy shopping while drinking. Think old-school Tupperware party or like multi-level marketing, but with dirty stuff. The hostesses can typically provide strippers or a blowjob class instructor, etc.

High End Lingerie Stores - The couture lingerie brand Agent Provocateur USED to have a store at Northpark that has closed. La Perla has a store in Highland Park village. There's a few boutiques that carry high end brands, like La Trousseau or Soma. Plenty of chain stores around town too.

Swinger House Parties - If you're looking for a true orgy that's pretty much what you're looking for. How do you get invited? Well, very few single males are but if they hang out at the clubs enough and get a reputation for being clean, well dressed, polite, fun to be around, great lays, you might get a shot. Something like owning a Sybian or crazy sex toys may help. It's far easier for couples and single ladies are ALWAYS welcome anywhere. Note, they may charge admission and single guys may face STEEP fees. Apparently, yes, sometimes the girls are compensated for participation in these events. They aren't necessarily professional sex workers, but they might get a little something to pay for their lingerie costs, etc.

Hotel takeovers - There's a few groups doing this, I think they're on the swinger dating sites. They take over a floor or two of a hotel and hang out there. There's also some gangbang groups at hotels that usually charge steep admission for dudes. Apparently, yes, sometimes the girls are compensated for participation for ladies who think that makes it kinkier or might make them want to do one.

Adult Theaters - They show porn, 24 hours a day, and people have sex in the theater or just show up to masturbate. Very few women show up, but it does happen, as well as couples showing up. Lido's, Bliss, Xposed are the biggest ones. Lido's has an upstairs "Straight" theater and a downstairs "Gay" theater, and I think others may as well. There's a regular ladies night run by a local group on every other Wednesday at Bliss (See Fetlife for details), and Lido's does couples only / single women only in the straight porn theater on Friday and Saturday nights, I believe the downstairs then switches to straight porn as well. Bliss is now only allowing play in the private rooms. These are all 24 hour venues and allegedly showing up when the bars close makes it easier to run into drunk couples or girls playing with people. Lot of gay and bi male action takes place along the walls, be careful if you don't want that. Some have private rooms where you can take the action for a little more privacy and control. Check the Dr Emilio Lizardo adult theater blog for etiquette, tips, and reviews. Be aware, these places can be pretty creepy gross and are not for everyone. Like a lot of the adult stores, they cluster off I-35 to be closer to the clientele they serve.

Porn shot in DFW - Texas Bukkake shoots in For Worth and is usually looking for tested male and female talent. I believe women can just fluff or watch, they've always got what looks like couples just hanging out in the background of the hotel rooms in their videos. There's always a decent amount of girls looking for folks to shoot content with for their OnlyFans and other stuff. UPDATE: Texas Bukkake was looking for tested males again.

Online only retailers in Dallas - LoveHoney used to have an office here, and DallasNovelty is an absolutely huge online retailer for specialty items. Neither allow people to just show up as far as I know, but maybe they're hiring or something.

Strip clubs - there's a zillion in Dallas. Topless they can sell booze, full nude is BYOB. La Bare is the naked male strip club for the ladies, was featured in a documentary once. There used to be another one called Master Blaster but I believe it is long gone.

What's gone - Some of this may show up on a Google search, but they're gone. 13th Floor, Sanctuary for the Lifestyle arts, several other swinger clubs like Velvet Curtain and Marble Door have gone away over the years. Duncanville cops shut down a swinger house years ago. Players DFW was bought and the name changed to Eden. Exxxotica convention was ejected from the Dallas convention center and is not welcomed back since they lost their lawsuit over it, so it might be years before we get another big erotic convention. The Leather Masters shop in Deep Ellum for BDSM gear and gay leather is gone, so I'm not sure where people get fetish wear these days. They were going to move and COVID killed them. Agent Provocateur closed their Northpark lingerie store. Apache Drive-In XXX theater in Tyler closed in March 2023, land sale.

Other Stuff

There's two adult stores with glory holes that allow women - Bright Lights and Whiskey Flatts, both on the far west of Fort Worth. (UPDATE: per comment below, Bright Lights may not allow women anymore.) The odds of a woman showing up here is typically the same as being struck by lightning, good luck. They're also supposed to be somewhat gross. The gloryholes at the various jerkoff arcades are as far as I know gay males only. Bliss theater allegedly has one in the private room, and the Ladies Night people at Xposed are trying to get one built by the owner.

Nudist and swinger resorts - Barehide Ranch is a nudist slash swinger ranch near Texas. OTR4U is similar with cabins and RV hookups. Hippie Hollow nude beach on a lake in Austin. There's a couple other nude beaches on the gulf coast. UPDATE: Purple Peacock is nudist but sex must take place in your own RV or rented cabin. Fig Tree Oasis is Facebook group only and totally off the regular internet. You basically have to get an invite to their Facebook group to even sign up to go.

Dogging aka public sex - there are rumors about heterosexual public sex this at a park in Fort Worth but I have heard nothing first hand so I assume it's probably just a really good way to get arrested. The park used to be notorious for gay hookups, so maybe that's all that is going on.

The Dallas fetish ball is still a thing- it came back at House of Blues in Feb 2022, with a Torture Garden event in November 2022. Lizard Lounge used to host some of this, another casualty of COVID. It came back at House of Blues and they're throwing another event in November 2023 which is the traditional time. The original Lizard Lounge owner is somehow still involved.

Bondage Expo Dallas has returned! They're coming back April 21st thru April 23rd 2023.

Munches are for people with various fetishes who go out to eat and network, it can be a good way to get more introduced in the scene in a low pressure way.

The People of the Sex Scene

Be aware the sex crowd is generally older, and just like the overall US population has a decent amount of overweight folks. If you're expecting a bunch of young thin good looking European model types from your favorite porn, you're going to be disappointed. The average age is more like 40s or 50s, so younger folks are a hot commodity. Most young people aren't confident enough to swing.

Overall etiquette tips

ALWAYS be clean, showered, smell nice, clean and trimmed fingernails, wash your greasy hair, dress well etc. Show that you take care of yourself and your body. Ask for permission before you touch always, and obey the rules they give you. If they say don't cum, don't do it. A lot of people are justifiably worried about STDs and will have rules to protect themselves. Bring condoms and use them.

Single Males

Guys, I'll warn you right now you'd have a better chance getting laid on Tinder or some dating app than doing this. Despite what porn has told you, there's not ready and willing women at the glory hole or regularly doing gangbangs. The DFW Metroplex is what, 8 million people? There's only one upcoming publicly known gangbang, two glory holes that allow women, 3 adult theaters where couples and women might play with single guys. And at most of those venues are LONG odds that women actually show up. The good news is you don't have much safety concerns except for some aggressively "jailhouse gay" dudes at the adult theater who might do stuff like put their cock on your shoulder where they just assume you're up for that, which actually happened to a buddy of mine! It's almost a chicken and egg situation, you need to be with a girl to get into this scene at all since most places don't allow single males cause their ratio gets too far off when they do. You'll be charged extra cover at any place that allows you and many places won't allow you at all. It'll be an expensive and time consuming hobby I only recommend you pursue if you have a serious kink fixation on group sex or specific situations you're not going to get picking up girls in a normal way.

Bi or Gay Males

I'm not covering stuff for y'all because I don't know the scene. There's a LOT of options for you I know for sure. Be aware that bi male play is potentially frowned upon by people at the clubs other than some nights for specifically for that. Comments welcome if someone wants to walk us thru the scene for men who want to have sex with men. UPDATE: Colette Club now hosts Haven, a night for bi males on Sundays. Check their website for a calendar.

Lesbian

There's one famous lesbian bar in town, Sue Ellen's. Beyond that, I know nothing. I am seeking subject matter experts, contribute in the comments.

Trans / Non-Binary

This is an insanely complex topic I can't give justice to. See comments for more explanation, and I am seeking subject matter experts, contribute in the comments.

Single Women

You'll be welcome anywhere and have the lowest cover charges. You'll be actively pursued by couples and single males. Basically, princess for life regardless of how you look as long as you're kinky and down for action. Safety is KEY. Learn how to do a safety call if you're meeting up with someone- names, descriptions of them and their car, license plates, when you expect to finish. Use texting platforms like Kik, Telegram, and Wickr that use screen names instead of phone numbers so that you can more easily block or disappear from people. Use a burner number like Google Voice and a new secure email for this stuff only. Don't send nudes with faces attached. Be prepared for about a million PMs and chat messages here or on other places, so don't post unless you're willing to fend off the hordes, but you can probably safely DM to postings without getting spammed to death. There's also a fairly common scam where dudes will pretend to be virgins to get you to sleep with them to take their virginity. Be aware guys are going to try just about anything to get in your pants, all manner of scams. Keep your shields up and take care of yourself.

Social platforms, Apps, Meeting online

Fetlife is like Facebook for kinky people. Lots of people also use Swingers Date Club (SDC), Kasidie, and Swing Lifestyle (SLS). Most of these have monthly fees, annual fees, lifetime memberships or very limited free accounts. For messaging, Kik is currently BY FAR the most popular, but there's some Telegram, Wickr, Discord. Warning, KIK is FULL of bots that try to get you to click on malicious links or get scammed. If you've got a group on Kik, it has to either be private or you'll be kicking 3-5 bots a day. Snap is used by some couples but a LOT by OnlyFans and sex workers. Spammers have been posting Telegram links on Reddit, so beware. There's some hookup apps that cater to kinky people, I heard that 3Fun worked for a "lesbian unicorn voyeur" friend of mine who wanted to watch a couple have sex and make out with the wife. Please feel free to share experiences of what works in the comments, no guerilla marketing shills please.

How to tell if you're talking to a bot, a catfish, OnlyFans seller or a Sex Worker

First question, is it too good to be true? Are they actually listing a neighborhood, suburb, or area of DFW? Bot posts don't do this. Then, look at the Reddit profile. Is it more or less brand new with no activity? Are they giving social media usernames in their profile or their post? A big warning sign is a clean profile with no posts or comments but has karma, which means they posted and deleted things. If you see this, google their username with Reddit to see what comes up. Another good tip is to take any messaging username given to you and search Reddit or Google for it to look for other accounts or scammy behavior. Obviously the "Upvote for nudes" thing is a scam because people can't see who upvoted their posts. Google reverse image search some of these photos and you'll see they're stolen. A lot of folks are so sloppy that they post across many other regional subReddits. Report to mods and move on, unless you feel compelled to warn dudes in the comments. Don't send people money or gift cards. I have nothing against OnlyFans and sex workers, but y'all ought to be honest and disclose up front that you are pay to play.

Unsolicited Dick Pics: A Crime in TexasYep, sending unsolicited pics of genitals or you having sex, or a boner outline in your pants is a class C misdemeanor in Texas since September 2019. https://capitol.texas.gov/tlodocs/86R/billtext/html/HB02789I.htm Note, you can report chat messages to the Reddit admins. If you're talking to a scammer or spammer or someone sends you something like say, an open mouth saying "stick it in" you can report them and they'll get banned.