Good day,

I am currently practicing Ethical Non-Monogamy and have been married for 18 years. We have opened our marriage up, but we are not playing the sharing game... so this is not a unicorn hunt.

I am looking for a woman who wants to hang out, get some coffee and just be open for friendship or more. I would like something more than virtual, but understand for the safety of us both, that's where it has to start.

I am 47, so up there in age. I am a big fan of humor and having a good time with whoever I'm with. Life is far to short to be so serious. I'm always open to trying new things, even if I have tried them before and didn't like them... maybe you can show me something I missed? I'm as easy going as they come so if you're looking for someone whos' a hothead, I'm not your guy. Also, don't mistake this for a lack of passion - if you properly engage me, passion for a person, place, or thing is, I'm all in.

Also, I do have a lot going on in my life right now, but I wouldn't be willing to try this if I didn't have the bandwidth for you. I make time for what is important and I will prioritize. I also will communicate. You don't stay married for over 18 years without having good communication skills.

What am I looking for?

I am looking for a woman, ideally somewhat close to my age within a span of 10 years (NOTE: loose requirement if you're cool and we click), who wants to share a part of their life with me, and be open to allowing them to be a part of mine. If you're a redhead, that's a big plus. I find that redheads are just, well, amazing and have very strong personalities.

I love strong women. Sure, physically strong isn't a bad thing but if you can speak your mind and have that passion for something, I'm in. It's not a hard requirement, but it is attractive to me.

Shared interests that would help:

Golfing (I'm terrible, but it's fun!) - I would love golf partner to get me back out on the links. Hell, even hitting a driving range would be fun! Also probably a necessity. It's been years.

Gaming (Xbox, Pc, - note my PC is in dire need of an upgrade, so I'm limited there.)

Going on hikes, walks, anything outdoors... when the weather isn't actively trying to melt you.

People watching - perfect for coffee dates and dinner dates. Also if you're big into breakfast, we'll get along just fine.

Good TV shows? If you're a fan of Parks and Rec, Ted Lasso, The Office and other such shows, we'll get along just fine.

I could go on and on, but hopefully you get the idea. Also I'm sure there are other things that maybe you have a passion about that isn't on the list - I'm happy to explore and share those interests!

Finally - if you do decide to reach out, and I hope you do, one of the things I will ask for is a picture of you with something like todays date or something specific written on a piece of paper. The only reason I'm doing this is because the amount of bots and folks trying to scam me into joining a website or wanting to gather my personal data is just ridiculously high in the dating world.

Thanks for reading this far, if you did. I'm also happy to field questions you may have that wasn't covered here.